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writes:I Don't know if you would define this question as important but it keeps pulling at my mind.I looked up how do you define "LOVE" and most articles I read said things such as "Every time you see that person you get butterflies or goosebumps". But Does all that Last forever, do you really have to get butterflies to say that your in love, if your in love do butterflies last forever, or perhaps do they just come and go?I would like to hear from people who are in long term relationship, or even better someone who has been married for a long time. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 April 2012):
 Of course it’s important. ALL questions are important…
Butterflies and goosebumps are lust.
Love is warm and cosy and just feels right.
I was 14 years old when I spent the summer with my grandparents.. they were married over 40 years at the time and slept in a double bed… at night when they laid down to sleep my grandmother would say to him “Charlie stay close and hold my hand”….. that’s love…
My father wept like a baby when my mother his wife of nearly 40 years died in his arms. He had no butterflies or goosebumps and had not for a long time… in fact she had been sick for nearly a year… but he lost his love…
I am in love with my current partner. It’s an early love only about 18 months old so far… and yet recently I have been falling more and more in love…. And it’s not butterflies or goosebumps… it’s warm… and glowy and I leave work early to go home and just BE with him….
Butterflies and goosebumps are about sex and excitement… love is slow and long and lingering and NOT exciting on a day to day basis.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 April 2012):
 I meant fallen out of love.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (6 April 2012):
I have never fallen in love as long as the relationship is working. The rush of passion can be different at the beginning and in a committed relationship. At the beginning everything is fresh, there is an anticipation of the next meeting and the excitement and uncertainty of what will unfold. The passion in a committed relationship is the daily appreciation of what you have, a warm embrace at the end of the day, the planning of what to do on the weekends. So the difference between the two is that one is reaching for the stars, and the other one is being thankful for what you have, because you have reached happiness and that happiness won't go away. When you meet the right person you will have this confidence to say this.
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