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writes:Hello I am a female and I really need help cause I feel lost. I met a guy one week ago. We spoke and he was very charming and funy. We had so much laughter the night we met. He asked me for my number and I gave it to him. It was Saturday the day I met him because I was leaving to go home I said goodnight. When I got home he texted me saying that he had a great time and he was happy that I came to the party. he said his plan was to make me happy and this was the same day by text. He said he has plans to show me a few places to hangout. When I said don't make me miss you because your words are too sweet he said this are just words wait till I show you. The nnew day I sent him my picture and he said are you a model you look so preety I can't wait to see you. He said if I don't answer my phone or your text message that means I am busy or at school I said ok. He said he doesn't like being on the phone and I said how are we going to know eachother if we can't talk he said we just met. I said why did you met me and said I wanted to get to know you and see what you are all about and at the same time like talking to yyou.he said he wanted new photos of me every morning and I promised I would send him.i been doing that taking a picture in the morning and send him one for 4 days since we met. He doesn't really say much or he doesn't text much. He was gone for two days and didn't call me or text me. We planned to see eachother and when I saw how he was acting I said it's better not see eachother. The next day because I like to see him I texted him asking if he was still coming and he said he was flying to LA to help his friend with something. I was shock and he was I was gonna talk to you about that I will give you a call tomorrow. I am confuse I can't figure him out. Please let Me know what I should do. Should I continue to send the pictures because I made a promise to him that I would everyday a new one. Because he asked for it. But I feel like he is not worth of my time. Please brothers and sisters I need help. Give me advice on what should I do.thank you
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (13 February 2015):
 I got as far as him asking for a photo every morning and couldn't go on.
Stop it with the photos. Who needs assignments? Enough already.
Stop trying so hard to please this guy. This request is just plain weird. Red flag.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 February 2015):
 Brown Wolf has a VERY good point.
PATIENCE!
You think the MORE you text the better you know him, it's not entirely correct. THE more TIME you SPEND together face to face the BETTER the chance of getting to know a person. Texting is for MANY people rather impersonal and easily misunderstood.
You can't HURRY a connection. No matter HOW fast or how often you text.
Secondly, NO - no daily photo to a guy you DO NOT KNOW the guy's a stranger. YOU have no idea what he DOES with that picture. NO idea at all.
And you... YOU come off as clingy and desperate. NOT a great combo and usually something guys RUN from.
You also say you feel you "have" to send pictures because you "promised".. HE KNOWS this. Guys like him knows how to use the fact that most girls are raised to be "nice" and "polite" that you are supposed to KEEP your promises. However, this is one promise you don't HAVE to keep. All you have to do, IF he asks you why he hasn't gotten a new picture is tell him:" If I knew you better then maybe I'd send pictures, but as of now you are a stranger I met at a party - and you KNOW what I look like."
IF... some some reason you DO want to get to know him, GO on DATES - that is meet him for coffee, dinner, lunch in a PUBLIC place, don't go home with him and don't bring him home. GO slow.
And it's about time you realize that texting doesn't EQUAL a conversation face-to-face. And texting doesn't equal getting to KNOW a person for WHO they really are. Texting are GLIMPSES of the other person. Whatever THEY want you to "see".
He can't even be bothered to "text" much, so really HOW interested do you think he is? He is texting you the BARE minimum to KEEP you sending pictures.
You say you feel he isn't worth your time, SO start TRUSTING in yourself and YOUR gut-feeling and cut him off.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 February 2015):
 So much of what you've written screams to me: "This guy is a player.... and you're next on his roster...."
Take things slow and stay in public places....
Good luck
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (13 February 2015):
 The guy's messing you around and is just playing games with you. He sounds weird. Stop sending pictures and don't contact him again.
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (13 February 2015):
 Personally, I think that the photo-a-day is weird and that's how some people create fake accounts on things, but using pictures of real people who have lots of pictures available to steal - in this case, you're voluntarily giving them to him, regardless of his intentions.
You don't think he's worth your time, so stop contacting him and block him. He doesn't know where you live, does he?
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (13 February 2015):
One word...Patience.
Learn it, Understand it, Live it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2015): No everyday when you've just met seems excessive, just stop for a while and see if he misses them
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