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writes:my mother and i have a horrible relationship.we dont talk anymore, and when we visit family around the holidays we dont even look at each other or go in the same room as each other.we stopped talking because she kicked me out because of one of her boyfriends she was living with. ( this is more then the first time it happened )now she is saying i owe her hundreds of dollars. (which i dont.)im not sure if i should keep ignoring her or be civil with her. i need help, and suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell, i spoke to my mom, and we are kinda talking now.
but thank you everyone for the suggestion.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 I don't think you should turn your back on your own parents and I can tell you don't want to do that either other wise you would not have come on here and you would have just turned your back on her. The past is history! Try talking to her and makr peace. Maybe her relationship with her ex wasn't that great and it caused her a lot of stress and she just took it out on you( it's not right but she is human and made a mistake) When she sais you owe her money, she might be refering to the hundreds or thousands of dolars she spent on you to raise you and give you a home before she kicked you out. I bed she is hurting inside more then you can imagine because you 2 are not in a healthy relationship. If it's easiwer for you, try writing her a letter and start communicating that way to break the ice. I do think it would be best if you 2 sat together and talked things out and made up:) Forgiveness will bnring you and your mother peace and reduce the stress you now both feel.
Good luck to you hun.........let us know what happens
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (4 January 2011):
 The best thing you can do for yourself is only have people in your life who lift you up. As an adult you get to choose who is in your life. In an ideal world your parents would be people you would choose, but there are lots of parents out there who don't deserve it. Sounds like you have one of them. Move on, guilt-free, without her.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 January 2011):
Nah, don't bother. Seriously. My mother was psychologically abused by her own mother, and chose to cut her out. I'm not saying life's worked out, but it's been a lot easier for her.
I don't see how you can be civil with a woman who treats you like dirt, throws you out and then claims you owe her money. I'd leave her out of your life as much as possible.
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