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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I recently began college and during orientation over the summer I met this girl. We'll call her Jenny. Jenny and I got know each other pretty well and over time I developed a crush on her. After orientation we became facebook friends but I was too chicken to send her a message. mostly because I saw that she had a boyfriend. Once we started classes we saw each other again and picked up right where we left off. One night when we were both drunk I told her how I was beginning to develop these feelings for her. I told her that I knew that her boyfriend was a really nice guy and that I would do nothing to break them up. I told her that the second that she broke up with him if ever, that I would try and make a move on her. She was playing around the questions I was asking and never really answered them. I realized this and by the end of the night I told her that she had to swear to me that we would never get together. She agreed and we have acted like nothing ever happened. I know that being drunk is not a good enough excuse to cover up what I said but I really do like this girl on more than a hit and go sort of basis. I cannot imagine going a week now without hearing her voice or hearing her laugh. I want to give her the entire world and then some. I can honestly say that I have never felt this way about someone ever. Ever!So I would like some help now knowing what I should do. Should I keep to my promise and say that we will basically be only friends forever? Should I try and tell her that just being friends will not be enough for me? Should I tell her that I have these feelings and then some when we are both sober and in the right state of mind? I would really enjoy some help from the fellow readers. Thank you!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 August 2012):
 Tell her the truth...
at your age she will probably not stay with the BF but she may for a few years...
keeping your feelings to yourself will just make it worse
tell her how you really feel, that you respect her relationship and that you won't make a move, you will be her friend as long as you can bear it... but as you fall more and more for her it will get harder and harder....
then know that the ball is totally in her court and go on being just friends till (OR IF) she's ready to be more...
it could be months'
it could be years
it could be NEVER
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