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writes:Right so my boyfriend dumped me last night and claimed things weren't working any more even though i had offered to do something about it like us going out together. Being the school holidays i havent had lots of time to see him. I cried when he dumped me and i really like him still and he claims he still really likes me but i think the whole not working thing was just an excuse because he likes someone else that he keeps seeing at the moment. I dont know how i am going to face him at school because he asked if we can still be mates as he still wants me as a friend. But if i still really like him and same with him i honestly don't know how i will do it. Last time we broke up (for a different reason) it was the same and people kept saying oh why dont you two just go back out. Then after a few weeks we were going out again, i don't know what i will do if that happens again because giving somebody a third chance is not really what i think i should do! Please help i am so confused right now! All opinions and thoughts on this would really help me right now! thanks.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 No. You said it yourself : second chance, OK. Third chance ?Too much.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 April 2010):
No. He'll fail you again. He has had his chances and has failed you twice. Leave him well in the past.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 No! You should not give him a third chance because he never learns from his mistakes .
He will commit it again and you will be like sitting on an emotional roller coaster again.
You are incompatible .
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): You said your answer: "... because giving somebody a third chance is not really what I think I should do!"If you were not attracted to him, what would you do? The answer there should knock out this problem. If not,This is what you do:1. Take some time and cry, and during that time, make a list of what you learned you will never do or allow again, and a list of what makes your life great. I hope one thing you decide is to never pursue a man whose passions are divided.2. When you get dumped, reciprocate for the sake of your sanity. You've got to save your pride and feelings to patch up and go on. So what you do is pretend he's invisible. He literally does not exist in your mind anymore. How that looks is to walk past him in silence with a pleasant face when you see him at school, even if he says hello. No matter what he does to get your attention, you push ignore on your phone, delete the texts, look right past his face in every room, smile and talk to everyone but him. What this does is erase your feelings of out of control and helplessness, and gives you the power to think above your emotions, and train yourself to master feelings and actions. Always be nice, always be professional, always be kind, and sometimes, you can be nice and pretend someone is invisible at the same time. In this case, ignoring him is appropriate, it shows you will never tolerate being one of many; giving you your dignity back, refining your character.There are over three billion men in the world, there simply isn't enough time for this clown...
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