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female
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36-40,
*elondynamite
writes:My boyfriend (or ex) and I have been together on/off for over 2 years. We are both in our mid 20s. Our relationship is serious that we actually talked about our future togehter like getting married etc..Everything was okay until a few months ago, he started to be a little distant, he hangs out a lot with his friends and cars that made me felt left behind or taken for granted. I was a little upset about it and told him how I felt. He got mad at me, we argued and broke up with me over the phone we stopped talking. 2 days after the argument, we talked on the phone again and he told me that he's not happy and wanted some time to think. at first, I didn't want to but then I agreed and gave him what he wanted.It was so hard for me to think that we're apart that I texted him and called him but he ignored me and that really made me feel so hurt and stupid so I texted him saying "I really hope we can make things clear and in good terms" and then I started doing the "No Contact".I'm doing No Contact for almost 2 weeks now and I am getting mixed emotions, some days I'm really excited and happy and some days really made me feel really sad. I don't know how or where this "No Contact" goes but I really hope that he'll never leave our situation hanging. I want some clear answers so I know how where I stand. What do you think about this? Should I keep doing No Contact and wait for him to contact me first?
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (27 April 2012):
 Wow! Girl...if he asked for the 'no contact' then give it to him! His loss anyways. There's nothing more disturbing than a woman who can't give a guy the time he 'needs'. But honestly, if I were you, after 2 weeks, I would've considered myself single already. I realize ending a relationship for that long can hurt, but it happens--it's life. Get dressed, grab a group of friends, and PARTY! I would if I wasn't already hitched.
By the way, I'm assuming you guys didn't speak about what 'Time' meant. He didn't specify not seeing other people, so my guess is--he already is.
Best of luck.
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reader, N91  +, writes (27 April 2012):
 Yes, otherwise you will just annoy him. He said he needed time and by constantly texting and ringing him, you're not giving him that and you're kinda smothering him at the worst possible time.
Be patient, it might be hard, but that's what he's asked for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2012): yes I think you should continue the no contact until he contacts you. Clearly you want this relationship more than he does and he's the one deciding if he even wants it anymore. therefore it's up to him to tell you. I think he does at least owe you a formal break up so if you don't hear anything from in in, say 6 weeks or 2 months or 3 months then I would consider that he's broken up with you but I would contact him just once to clarify that.
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