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writes:Hey Ok so my ex and I stopped talking for about four months (after break up), got to the point where I truly thought I was over him. He contacted me out of the blue and wanted to be friends, after 3 weeks I acepted and we started chatting heaps again like we use to. I didn't feel any passion for him, felt like the love I had was gone and I was truly free!He told me he is in a realtionship with a 15yr old girl he is 20, my reaction was fine didn't feel hurt or anything.For weeks we kept chatting etc, until one day he told me he isn't allowed to talk to me anymore for a while until his new girlfriend gets over the fact he is best mates with his ex. I felt really pissed off and now after a month of him ignoring my emails and texts its starting to drive me mad! I'm now starting to believe that maybe I never really got over him, I don't really know but what I do know is I want my best mate back..I can't help but get the feeling he is using her as a distraction, he has lied to him self in the past..Truth is you always hold a soft spot for your fist lover, partner, love.. I was all three for two years..So my question is how do I go about this situation?? Should I just walk away or should I stand my ground as his bestfriend?
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reader, LeighLeigh +, writes (18 February 2010):
LeighLeigh is verified as being by the original poster of the question Oh we were talking when they were together from the begining though? I think she cracked the shits when she saw a pic of me from ages ago(when we were together) in his phone which he was still yet to delete. Was a pic of him and I with his arm around me kissing me on the cheek. So I guess I can see why she's so touchy about me, even though he had told her 100 times there's nothing to be worried about she still didnt like the idea of us talking.
My ex and I aren't the kinds who would cheat, I'd never be the other woman cos I know too well how it feels to be cheated on.
I'll have to take a deep break, close my eyes and think of something he has done in the past to piss me off haha Hope that works!
Thank you heaps for replying, thank you for all your advice too! = )
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 It's hard to say if he is ignoring you for her sake or not. I would definitely assume so, since he was talking to you before and then started to ignore you when he dated her. Definitely not a best friend btw. My friend and I had discussed when we met other people and said we would never ditch each other yet of course he did... And I don't know what to tell you about walking away, I don't know anything about leaving it alone unless I'm pissed, lol. But since he is ignoring you, you don't have a choice. I mean texting repeatedly won't get you anywhere. My friend actually got his girlfriend to answer the phone one time and she asked me to stop calling.... so you definitely don't want to end up there.
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reader, LeighLeigh +, writes (18 February 2010):
LeighLeigh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Stacy! = )
Not sure if I still love him I'm still a bit confused there, but in all honesty I do miss him heaps and our chats.
But I agree if I keep going here I'm only going to hurt my self in the end.
Do you really think his only ignoring me for her sake or not??
Problem is I don't know how to walk away when I'm not pissed off and angry with him like I was last time?
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (18 February 2010):
You have to walk off. Whether he is your best friend or not he is ignoring you so you don't have much of a choice. Do you really know you still love him though is my question. I was in a similar situation. I had an ex of about a year and a half. After a couple months we became best friends. He met a girl and ditched me. I became insanely jealous and mad. Far from the fact that I loved him, but he was always there then he wasn't... Also getting ignored pisses me off to no end and the fact that he didn't care I was there... But why do you think you still love him? It is very hard to be friends with an ex. Your boyfriends won't get it and neither will his girlfriends. They will always think something is there. And usually for one of the people in the friendship something is there. And if that is you, and you know you do love him, you definitely can't be friends. Watching him get girlfriend after girlfriend will only crush you unneccessarily. You can only truly be friends if you have moved on completely, and for some sadly may never be possible. But like I said, regardless of whether you do love him or not, not much you can do about him ignoring you. Just leave it alone until he comes back. But if you really love him and there is no chance on it working, cut your losses completely now.
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