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writes:Hi Friends,I feel like I'm in a weird place. Several months back I met a great girl "Angela" and we really hit it off, spent a lot of time together, took a road trip with her friends, etc. A few weeks ago she got news that she was laid off from her job and she is now realizing she has to make a lot of changes and sell her house and move somewhere else. She immediately shut down after this and basically quit talking to me. I've reached out to her several times to see how she is, send job leads, etc but she is very distant and seems to want nothing to do with me. Apparently she is still active on Facebook, seems to still be talking/hanging out with her friends and such. The last I saw her was 2 weeks ago when we went to a concert that we had gotten tickets for awhile ago and I feel like she sort of felt obligated to take me. Is this worth reaching out to her again for some kind of explanation? I feel sort of hurt and upset that she couldn't say anything to me like she needs space or doesn't want to go out anymore or maybe its just a lack of interest. I know she is probably dealing with a lot and just can't handle a relationship maybe but I haven't had any closure and just feel weird having this "limbo" thing.My friends have said to just move on and forget her, I did recently meet another girl "Katie" several weeks ago and I really see something developing there although we aren't exclusive yet. She is very sweet and affectionate and I see her almost everyday. Katie said she is also dating someone else besides me but since its only been a few weeks I don't want to rush things since I think I really like her. Should I just walk away from the first girl? Or what if she gets her life together and starts contacting me again like nothing happened? Thanks for your advice!
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reader, pepper  +, writes (19 February 2015):
 Hi hunnyI can see how your head must be spinning, it's obvious you liked this girl. She lost her job, May have to sell her home and is probably feeling pretty crap at this moment. When something like this happens it kinda pops a spanner in the works so to speak. She may still be in contact with certain people in her life but I bet secretly she is having a real hard time adjusting. She may feel at this moment it's the wrong time to date as she has so much on her mind. Doesn't mean she didn't like you. The timing of her job loss just gave her alot to think about. I'd wish her luck and take katie out. It's not aimed at you, it feels like she has just gone off without a care but I don't think that's the way it is in her world at this moment. I wouldn't take it personally ... Give katie a chance, wish Angela well and go from there. Hope this helps Take care Peps :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 February 2015):
 Honestly, girl #1 is ashamed that she no longer has a job, that she had to sell up and move. I would PRESUME that you two are over, even if it hasn't been said. BUT pro forma, I'd shoot her a text wish her well and that you have decided to move on. After that, I'd remove her from your FB (and any shared friends that are "hers").
You like Katie, SHE wants to BE with you. Why not live in the now? Instead of in the "what if"?
Though I have to say, I don;t get you haven't TALKED to #1 about this. You are making a lot of presumptions with someone you supposedly CARE(d) for. And you already found a new GF before figuring out what was up with girl #1? That... is kind of cold.
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