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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend together for a year now, we have been absolutely happy and perfect for each other, sharing the same opinions, respect and love up until now.About a week ago he suddenly stopped saying "I love you "and got very concluded.I went to his place and we had a serious talk (long story short):He claims to love me a lot, but he has problems with understanding what exactly does he want from life at this point?He says he has a weird chaos - like - feeling, nothingness, and he suddenly felt he has been too happy for too long (the hapyness feeling has been capped, so to say).Its in his nature to ponder about things and be quite different from the rest of the society, and in a way, hes in a way a spiritual mazochist sometimes.Plus to that, he said he really doesnt want me to suffer, so he will not pretend nor lie to me. But the most difficult point is -- Our relationship is on the line, because he must choose whether he wants to continuously be happy with me, or regain his balance as a loner with a grudge towords society.My question is, should i now wait for his response and hope for the best, because we are still together and seeing each other (to add + he is the first love of my life,and im 25 at the moment, have dated numerous guys and never even Once fell in love before) ...or just put an end to it myself and stop my constant fear and anxiety of getting abandoned?
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reader, ctds001  +, writes (21 June 2010):
Hey Honey,
You need to stop allowing this gentleman from blowing hot and cold on you. This maybe the 1st time but if you pander to this it may become a reaccuring issues.
Tell him he has only this 1 time to consider if he wants to be single, as this can not be repeated because you will LEAVE him. You will not live in fear of him wanting he's old life back.
Good luck, be firm and follow through it he does this again!
P.S When you are in love your main fear should be losing the other person, not of being single and a loner is better the LOVE!
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