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30-35,
*lysses
writes:I don't think I am ready for a relationship right now. However, I think that when I feel I am ready it will be too late to start learning and no one will be patient enough to teach me unless they are trying to use me. When the time comes should I trust girls/women with my heart or remain single for life? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 I know someone in your age group who is also unready to date. She is quite immature and because of that has trouble facing and handling dating decisions. She does have the good sense that many of her contemporaries don't have to know when she is not ready. I hope that she will have the sense to know when she is ready.
That is the real danger both you and she face. You get into the habit of not dating. You become comfortable not having the stress of relationships and getting to know people. Then before you know it you are older than any single people you know. I don't know your customs but here you have 3 to five years easily. More in the eastern US.
You are right to be worried. The best thing you can do is to make yourself the best catch you can. When you do start to date let your friends know so they don't scare off any prospective dates by monopolizing your time.
FA
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reader, olderthandirt +, writes (20 August 2012):
 too young if you were 40 or older then go see some one for counseling,otherwise wait until you have more life experience before you throw in the towel.
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reader, ulysses +, writes (20 August 2012):
ulysses is verified as being by the original poster of the question I think I am an active listener and trustworthy because my friends come to me for advice or just to talk when they are having problems and I don't share anything personal which they tell me.
I just think that the experience gap between myself and everyone else is already wide and that it won't be passable when I feel I am ready to start dating.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (20 August 2012):
You are way too young to give up. Just because you are not ready for a relationship does not mean you can not learn now. Relationships are made of trust and communication. Those you can practice now. Learn to be an active listener. Learn how to express your feelings clearly. practice being trustworthy and keeping your commitments. Learn how to resolve differences without conflict. Also learn how to keep your home neat, How to live with roommates. How to take care of your own needs.
If you can do all that, when you meet the right person you will be capable of holding down a relationship.
FA
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 August 2012):
 When you meet someone and the time is right, go for it.
you are very young and you have plenty of time...
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