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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met someone on a first date last Friday and I thought it went pretty well... He initiated chats all week although I stated I prefer meeting over chatting and he agreed to meet but continued to say good morning to me everyday online. We met for over an hour over coffee last friday and talked, laughed a lot and I think we both felt very comfortable. I did feel attracted to him and I can tell he was very attracted to me (he complimented me on my long black hair) But I had to end date after an hour and half because I had to run to meet my sister for an event, he apologized for being a bit late and I said its okayAnyways On the date at times he became self-conscious and when we were walking he stepped on goose poop (around the park area) and wiped his sandals on the grass and blushed. But we kept walking, he made me laugh a lot, plucked flower from a bush and gave it to me. I also asked if he grew out his hair sometimes (and he got very self conscious )and stated if I prefer him with long hair or short hair, I said i love both on him but other than that he was very charming, interested, and everything (we also talked about life, his passion for physics, mine for sociology, talked about his internship, so we covered serious to very light silly topics)My questions is, we hugged goodbye and everything seemed be going well but I havent heard from him since ? He did tell me he hasnt been in a serious relationship since he was 20 (he is 26 and Im 25) and my last serious bf was 2 years ago...so I know he casually dates and is on tinder and other apps talking to girls but I wasnt very concerned about that...we even talked about experiences dating online and smiled and laughed about online datingI'm just not sure what to make of it. Is he interested? ? I def like to see him again but only if he was interested (he mentioned he was very selective and private person) I'm really picky too hence, I havent got a serious bf in a while. I also see him online everyday dating site but he hasnt reach out to me or even say good morning so I wonder if other girls are taking precedence in his mind more than me I wonder if its a sign I should just move on? I regularly meet men for coffee and have met 100 more or so for coffee in past few years so Im not concerned about moving on, I just wonder why he didnt reach out after what seems to be a good date ? I think he was really attracted to me and seemed to even be a little self-conscious at times so Im confusedThanks
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 June 2016):
 I would reach out and see of it's him being a bit shy that has kept him from contacting you.. or maybe he think that "3 day rule" actually is a good thing.
If you reach out and try and chat and he doesn't respond, I'd chalk it up to him having moved on. But if you think he is worth a few minutes of your time, then reach out.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 June 2016):
 Okay well first off if he is self conscious maybe he is a bit shy and is holding off to see if you will contact him. Sometimes men want a woman to show interest as well. If you liked him and you felt the date went well then why not drop him a chat, say you enjoyed the date and ask him how he has been. I can see that it does not look good that he has not contacted you since the date, but if you like him it is worth a try, the worst he can do is ignore you and at least then you know you tried and it is his loss.
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