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writes:2002 was a rough time for me. I had just had gotten laid off, and I had sank into a deep depression. During this depression, I had become very insecure and this manifested into me developing serious trust issues with my ex, and in the process I said and did things that I now regret. I had become the person I have always hated and swore that I would never become. Needless to say this put a serious strain on our relationship, and eventually we broke up. And it was an ugly break up. But after all of that we have become civil towards each other, for the sake of our 10 year old daughter. and over the past 2 years have actually become friends! Eight years after out split, I still have feelings for her and deep down inside I wish we could get back together and be a family again. However after the way I treated her, pigs will fly, hell will freeze over and the Lions will win the super bowl before that will happen. But I still would like to get these feelings off my chest. My question is should I tell her how I feel anyway, or should I just keep it to myself?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 January 2010):
If you're getting on, and she's still single, maybe it's worth a try. It would be a shame if you didn't say anything and she still loved you. The only way to find out is to say something.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (11 January 2010):
 If you and your ex are friends again, then maybe at some point in a warm and caring moment, you can tell her how you feel and most important, tell her that you truly regret the things you did to her, and the person you became.
I don't know if she would want you to be back as a permanent internal fixture within the family, as in her better half; but that's something you have to earn, and she won't give that to you easily.
However, deep down if there's no other person in her life, and the two of you are raising your 10 year old, then its entirely possible that she's been waiting for the man she fell in love with to re-emerge. In that case, pigs may fly with or without airplanes, Hell's probably frozen anyway and the Lyons still won't win so don't worry about that one.
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