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writes:I have a question: Recently I began an online relationship with a young lady who is a stripper. We have been going round and round for a while, until we finally stated our feelings.And had set up a timein the near future to meet and see wherethis would take us. Since that day, things have turned south. She had some family issues to deal with,and dropped off the face of the earth for awhile, then resurfaced. Of course, I didnt know what was going so I had given up. She now contacts me,said she is quitting dancing to do MODELING! But of course that means that we will probably never get a chance to meet. Pretty much anything that has been told to me I have no way of verifying because I am so far away. Should I just give this up and move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everybody...I just want to give you an update on what ended up happening in this whole farce!Yes, I should have ended it. I didn't right away. The lady began calling me the next week. She ended up antagonizing me on the phone and hung up on me. Then she sends a text to me asking me if I was "Sorry Yet"? This past Wednesday she called again, we talked, but this time she talked in very hushed tones because I got hold of her after she had called me and I missed it. She sounded like it was very hard for her to talk, she said she was putting away clothes. I asked her about school and how she did on her exams...she refused to answer. I asked her about what was going on...she was evasive and hushed, like someone else was close by that she did not want hearing the conversation. So finally I finally pushed the envelope with the young lady tom see what would transpire. I said to her "Since you always are in the car when you tell me how much you love me, I want you to tell me right now"! Her response:"You know I do" then she asked the weirdest question:"Are you smoking a cigarette?"I said yes...She hung up on me. Never heard from her since.So I guess she did have a significant other that she didn't want me to know about, or him/her about me.Ah well....Live and Learn eh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst I want to thank the persons who responded to my question.
Secondly, I need to update this a little.
When she dropped off the face of the Earth, it was under the guise that she was attempting to help her mother who was diagnosed with cancer. She said that she had sold her house to help with the treatment. Then she was quitting stripping to do the Modeling that would "take her all over the place". 1) if you sold your house to do that for your mom, wouldnt you want to be near her, and not being"all over the place? 2) If you sold your house, why won't you tell me what your living status is? 3) if you are so agonized about your mother's condition, why are you going to all these parties with your "friends" every night?
I stupidly answered the phone when she called an hour ago, which was filled with agonizing long pauses on both ends until her phone went dead some 15 minutes later. She said her mind was in a different place. Well my mind is also in a different place right now...A place that feels foolish and heartbroken.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): You answered your own question. How do you know anything of what she told you was the truth if this was an on-line relationship? And, by chance if it was...what kind of modeling...strip magazines? If fantasy helps you sleep at night, continue the on-line relationship. You could also tell her she has inspired you...you are now stripping in a female club!
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 um.
online dating, long distance , abusive relationships. trying to forgive a cheating partner, running away with your step father, running away with your cousin and relationships with minors....
DO NOT WORK
I'm sorry to appear so blunt but its true. unless you actually say " lets meet or.. see yah" if she says no block her. if she says yes make sure you get a phone number. if she doens't give you a phone number then she's lying.
seriously though if you want a women... i dunno Thaibrides.com
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reader, Juney +, writes (5 January 2008):
 Yes i think you should. Online relationships are not exactly easy at the best of times, but when someone is treating you as she is, you dont have a clue where you stand. I know its lovely to meet someone online, and get to know them through your feelings etc before you actually meet them, but you havent even got this far yet. I dont have anything against her profession(s) either, but she must be coming into contact with many people on a daily basis that probably seem far more real to her than a fuzzy image on a computer screen that she can turn on and off anytime she likes, and sometimes she doesnt even bother to do that.
I had a relationship with someone i met online and it lasted for 16 months, but we met up within 2 weeks of meeting, so it can work out, but its quite rare, even mine went down the pan eventually!
Good luck
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