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writes:hi i hope some one can help me through this.......i got with my boyfriend aug just gone- we were together for 6 months ,and just after valentines day - we split up - he finished with me -an it really hurt me - but i didnt go chasing after him- i just left it to see how i felt -and last week, we met up and had a chat , an we are now back together -yeah im really happy- but the thing is - while we were broken up-he was a his mates house- his mate being a girl- and they were drunk, watching a film, and what he says is that the girl started kissing him and jumped on him- the ended up having sex anyways-i already knew he had done something with some one - so when he told me - it didnt shock me too much,but the thing is - since he told me ,, and confirmed what i thought - i just cant stop thinking about it ,i guess it wouldnt of been so bad if it had been a random girl , but for it to be a mate of his - i really dont feel comfortable with it as they crossed the 'mates' line?does this make anysense?i dont actually know the girl myself-but part of me wants him to never see he again- in case it happens again?i totally trust him - and im not a jealous person - but im really hurt and worked up over this - the worst part is - we werent together when it happened and i know i have no right to be mad at him or hold it against him, if i cant get over this - or if i ask him to not see her again-or anythin- do we have a future?! is it worth carrying on and seeing what happens? or should it just end now before we both get too involved again!?please help!? thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): hey thanks- we talked yesterday- as i knew somthing was up and i got it out of him , the thing is - he said he was drunk and lonely and didnt know i wanted him back---but i just realised now- i had text him on a saturday telling him i love him an wanted to sort things out ,we wer meant to meet on tue but he fin work late, e were meant to meet wed but he had to go to pool-then we finally met up on the friday- and he was hungover-from vodka, which is what he drank when this girl jumped on him--so if im right in thinkng this happened the night before we got back together--is it really worth it? as he knew he was meeting me the next day and how i felt?im reallly confused - i love him so much an things do seem right together - but this is all circling my head and im starting to resent the fact that everything i work out goes against him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): hey i'm not very good at relationships myself but its just a thought.
so may be you should tell him how you feel about the entire situation and ask him what he thinks you should do??
may be i'm wrong ...hope it helps
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