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writes:i miss my ex very much ....she was 14 and i am 21...she was my cousin and it was a long distance relationship....we started everything from texting chatting and met a couple of times when i went to her place ....we always had something special between us and were attracted to each other....we mostly chatted on IMs for long time ...recently, a year ago when i was at her place,i proposed her and she agreed! my happiness knew no bounds and we spent a lot of time together hand in hand and freaking out! but i couldnt feel that closeness when i came back ...i wonder why ! it happened once or twice ...she used to behave very neutral and came online only when she wanted! i endlessly waited for her but she was amused to see my desperateness and played mind games...she already knew that i was crazy about her..never bothered to call me even once since we had an affair!but i left the matter and stopped going online ...i tried my best to leave her alone and get on with my life...one year passed and things got faded...so much that i must even not be in her mind i guess...but deep inside i miss her even today ...since a year, almost everyday i go online and check offlines if any ...but hardly find any! now a days i wonder what is going on in her life and miss those good old days ... she even has a bf i guess...i am not sure but she told me that! should i contact her ? i know its nt gonna affect her even if i dont do...but for the old times' sake ...i want some comments on the issue...thanks for the time
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): 14 and your cousin? Either you're trolling or you belong in jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): I am in TOTAL Cerberus, your on for a hiding to nothing if you carry, move on, let go and find someone closer to your own age!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): find someone your own age, really.
this is wrong on so many levels. and unless you want to end up in jail i would advise you to not contact her at all.
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reader, imaginary friend  +, writes (3 April 2009):
shes only 14, and its way too young to be involved in a romantic relationship with a 21 y/o youve gotta get over it
seriously im sure someone talked some sense into her
no you shouldnt contact her you leave her the heck alone%Pr
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): You need to find friendships of you own and stop fixating on your ex girlfriend. She has moved on with her life and obviously doesnt have the same hankering after you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): I don't think you should contact when you still have feelings for her, because you will only get hurt.
She's a teenage girl, things and feelings tend to change quickly with teenagers, it would be best if you got over this and moved on. You know nothing of teenage girls if you don't understand how she can just throw you away so easily.
You must realize how unacceptable society deems this kind of relationship, if so then you must also take into account that as she matures she will gain a greater understanding of why that is, if she doesn't already and is very likely to think less of you. Your idea of good old days is considered by many to be a form of exploitation and abuse.
I don't normally say this but in your case you need to hear it, she's too young to maintain the mature kind of relationship that you want from her and you contacting her could actually get you into a lot of trouble.
You need to delete all contact details you have for her and stop checking up on her, you have an obsession with this girl that will not do your head any good.
Do what you can to move on. Good luck.
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