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writes:I've been going through a rough patch with my boyfriend, and another guy started showing an interest in me. I was very interested in this guy too, and we ended up doing a lot of things in the 'grey area' that doesn't quite count as cheating but is still inappropriate for someone who's in a relationship. I came so incredibly close to cheating with this guy, I was really attracted to him and the temptation was unbearable. But at the last minute I changed my mind and realised that he wasn't worth losing what I had with my boyfriend over.It's early days, but I feel as though this is a turning point and things are getting better between my boyfriend and I because of my close encounter with another guy. So the question is, do I come clean and tell my boyfriend what it was that made me realise how much he meant to me or is it best left unsaid? Reply to this Question
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reader, Friendly Bear +, writes (7 November 2009):
If you want to relieve your guilt then don't tell him because that is not a good reason. If you want to lay the foundations of an honest and strong relationship then you must declare it. Expect him to be angry and know how you're going to make things up. I hope it works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): I have been in the exact same situation.I told it to my guy.The relief is indescribable.Our relationship has grown stronger.Pulling back and cutting contacts is never easy unless you genuinely care for the guy.I only hope your guy is intelligent enough to understand this.It would be better if you told him now.Sooner or later if he gets to know it from someone else(Yep there are lots of mischief makers out there) it would be worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): Honesty is always best, but it's really up to you, and it depends on what type of guy he is. If he will be more likely be touched that you care about him that much than angry at what you did, then you should tell him.
it will probably come out eventually...
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