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writes:So I texted this guy and asked if he wanted to get together sometime. He apologized for not getting to me sooner and we met. After the date I texted to thank him and he answered back 2 days later??? Not good! Since then he texted me every weekend to meet once(it has been 4 weeks). The last time after the date he took me to the bar where his friends were. His roommate actually bought me drinks. They all knew that we were on a date and they were teasing us. But, he doesn't text or call me just to say hi. He had only one relationship which he ended two years ago. And he is a virgin because his ex practiced abstinence. I'm not used to guys paying this little attention. I just don't want to be strung along. Should I just calm down and not expect too much from it but see him anyway? Or should i just stop seeing him because it is highly likely that he is just seeing me because he can? Obviously, I haven't slept with him. We kissed once.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is just an update. I stayed at his place one night and I told him ''I'm not going to sleep with you.''(I meant for that night only but whatever). He never called me again. I texted him to see if his trip was ok he answered back right away but didn' mention anything about meeting up so..that's it I guess..:(
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (17 February 2011):
 It would seem that texting isn't his preferred method of communication and neither is it yours. Maybe it's too detached for him. So, considering you're wanting instant communication and he's seemingly shy and socially unaware, it would be best to call him to make plans. He'll get the hang of it and reciprocate if he wants to continue dating.
Maybe he's taking his time, probably being cautious about rushing into things. So ask yourself why you're pushing things?
You shouldn't expect things from people. They are who they are and he's not giving you enough attention, tell him how you feel. If he cares he'll compromise, just calm down and try to look at the big picture. Focus on positive, light topics to talk about and enjoy his company. He seems like a good guy who's not going to try to use you for sex.
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