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anonymous
writes:For the last 4 months or so I have been dating a guy. its been a really cool relationship, completely laid back and just fun really and also hes helped me through a lot and been completely supportive without putting pressure on me.However, i dont really see it going any further or more serious. Also recently, a guy i really liked, more than anyone in the world, to the point of which i think it could be classified as love, got in contact with me. We used to be really close, he was my best friend and the only guy i have ever seen a real future with. So he began to talk to me, and weve picked up so easily that all these feelings are rushing back, and i think he feels the same because he tells me to dump my boyfriend, says i could do better and then hints at me. However, he lives about an hour away. Also, my boyfriend is a genuinly nice guy. and i cant decide between the two so for now im isolating myself so i can make a decision. So i could do with some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): I know this may sound cheesy, but I say to follow your heart. This is a decision ONLY you can take. Both guys sound nice and good people. The only thing I suggest you to take in consideration is to make sure the other guy will stay with you in a romantic way.
I don't understand the issue of living "an hour away" from him. If you love him as much as you do, distance won't matter. (My boyfriend lives 3 hours away from me and we've been together almost 3 years together)
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reader, Al 2008 +, writes (25 June 2008):
You do need time alone to figure it out. You will know which one is right for you after thinking about it. You just need to be honest with yourself! Dont think of it as a difficult decision, be determined to find an answer because it is an important decision. To me i can see that you are already more than halfway in choosing the guy who was 'your best friend' because you mentioned you dont see it really going any further with the other guy!
I hope this helps
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 In my opinion, long distant relationships almost never work out. If you have a vehicle, however, an hour isnt that far. The quicker you make a decision, the better. You wouldnt want to keep a nice guy hanging if you dont want to be with him. You sais you dont see it going any further, so dont take it any further and let him go. He sounds like a great guy and should have no troubles finding a great girl. Just remember, you never know what you have untill it's gone;) Good luck!
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