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writes:CoNFIDANCE 1 thing i really dont have and i ned help fast i feel drained i give up on everything because it dont work out the first time for me..My heart wants 2 stand out and be different than every body and i really want to acheive the things i start but agen the end of anything my head and body just stop ........Theres no goin back when this happens i could lie in bed for days pretending im sick when i actully lack alot of confidance...:(Can anybody tell me how id regain the confidance i had when i was younger i used to b really happy and now everything has just turnd upsiide down...is there any websites or some1 i can e-mail that might be able to help me...please please please im depresate i really want to get my self confidance back.......thank you and i will exept and comments or jujestments any1 has sory bout the spellin im jus typin it real fast.....xxxx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 With the signes you've provided. I believe you need to see a doctor and be tested for ADHD. That would explain your not completing what you start, and loosing confidence. This happens because people with this disorder do things different than others. When standing out by not accomplishing or completing as other do, confidence begins to decrease because your mentally trying to find the answer.
Having this disorder is not a bad thing. There are many positives. To increase your confidence, it helps to know about yourself and your limitations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): Don't compare yourself with other people. It is a wasteful pursuit and you could be doing something better with your time and energy. Know what you, personally, want and expect from yourself, and focus on attaining those things. The things that you want and expect from yourself don't have anything to do with how you measure up to others.
Consider attending leadership classes. Learn to take control of things. If you are in school, then consider running for a social position, such as a president of a club. The ability to lead others and respond to others' behavior under your leadership will help to bring you self confidence.
Listen to your inner monologue—your inner voice. In situations where you believe you lack confidence, realize that your inner voice is telling you negative things. You need to retrain that inner voice to be positive in those situations. If you need help, find someone who can help you do that.
Speak positively at all times. When you hear yourself saying something negative about yourself, instantly replace it with a positive comment.
You have to reprogram your subconscious by repeatedly telling it how confident you are, it will believe you in time.
Know where you are going and follow through.
Don't feel shy when talking to a stranger. Smile while you talk, as that will make you feel confident.
No matter how you look, feel good about yourself from within. This attitude will make you confident.
Walk 20% faster than your normal pace, stand and walk with your spine straight and hold your chin high. These physical posture will force you to think positive and be confident.
Hope this helps babs...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): I know hw your feeling with lack of confidence, i had the same problem, Now i'm really confidnt and happy. And the only reason i'm like that is because of my friends. I've got a group of friends who i'm always with who accept me for wo i am. My advice is to find a group of people you trust and like you, when you've got tehm let your self go, i know its not as easy as it seems but it works, if you can learn to laugh at your self and not care if people stare at you then you're on your way to being ultra confident. trust me this works. get your friends to help you, tehy're permanent!get some feel good clothes that make you feel you and when ever you feel you need a confidence boost put the clothes on and strut your stuff.
I hope i was some help, good luck ! :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): It sounds like you do need help, first id speak to someone close to you, let them know how you feel because they canhelp you on a personal level. There are loads of reasons why people dont feel confident, it can be a problem that you may need help from a therapist, if you really struggle to build your confidence yourself then maybe think about speaking to your doc.Have you any ideas of what has caused you to loose your confidence? It maybe something that you only subconsiously are aware of.People making you feel good increases your confidence, maybe consider hanging out with your friends, maybe date a guy that likes you!
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