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41-50,
*ameidos
writes:Hello!I am in a stupid quandry. I have asked only a few of my friends what I should do and they both say IGNORE!Back in October a cooworker and I became attracted to each other and he proposed that we start having some fun together. Which I was completely fine with and happy to have some no-strings attached sex.One of my fantasies is to give Blow jobs and to also give hand jobs (sounds a bit silly) but I love to be on the giving end as well as receiving. So we started a lot of sex texting about this and it has eventuated into a lot of hand job texting and him telling me about how he is masterbating. The times that we have met up, it has only been me watching him wank and me giving hand jobs. All of this has turned me on and I have expressed this, but I have also expressed that I want to have sex also. Unfortunately now, he appears tp be disinterested in the idea of sex and wants more and more of these hand jobs (which is a big fantasy of his).I am becoming dissatisfied and heres my quandry. Should I ignore his texts (which might idicate that I am upset and have become emotional) or should I actually reply and with what explanation???? I have so many ideas floating around in my head of what to say eg. 'I would like to pull out of this arrangement because I am not getting a lot of satisfaction out of it?" I mean what do I say without sounding emotional and perhaps whiney about it. I kind of dug my grave in the first place by revealing that I liked it!Would appreciate anyone's thoughts and suggestions.Yeah I know, its stupid and I am feeling stupid!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Tell him what u think if he don't like it oh well. But if he really wanted he would make love to you u know instead of wan kin it. But just my opinion
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 February 2009):
I think rather than sending him a formal letter of resignation, you should just wait till you next see him, and then treat that as his LAST chance.
Do your thing for him and then lie back and say "my turn."
If he still doesn't perform then just tell him then and there that you are bored of doing stuff for him and since he doesn't seem to know how to please a woman then you want to call it quits.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, sugar_sugar  +, writes (1 February 2009):
 I think what you should do depends quite largely on how you feel about him. Do you want this to develop into something more or is it purely sexual? Also keep in mind the fact that you have to work together - ignoring him would make things pretty uncomfortable.Personally I would offer a casual explanation as to why - you're looking for something a little more two sided perhaps. Offering an explanation will give him a chance either redeem himself or end it a little less awkwardly.
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