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writes:I go to school at occhs in troy, tennessee i am 16 years old i like the girl who already has a boyfriend i told her everything about me i told her this secret about me masterbating to her picture she said it was flattering after i told her i gave her gifts to her on valentines day and i find it a little ironic that she asked me what cell phone service i have she said nothing would change between us but she hasn't been answering my phone calls and texts here are my questions am i being paranoid? and was i stupid for telling her? and how can i get her to be my girlfriend she told me she loves me like a lil bro i don't want that? p.s. my dad is sucidal i just got through feeling guilty over my parents divorce this year i have always bribed people to be my friends so please don't laught at me
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): A guy told me once that he thought about be when he jacked off. I smiled and said 'that's pretty cool. At least I know I look hot enough to do that.' but when home and laid there all night, trying to sleep without that picture popping into my head.
You probably shouldn't have told her.
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reader, Jargenhunter +, writes (24 February 2008):
What you said can be flattering to some, but to a girl that you are not in a relationship with, it can be kinda creepy. Yes it is normal and yes a lot of guys do it, but until you have her, some intimate details should be kept to yourself. Now that you told her, obviously you cannot take it back, but try to withdrawl a little bit to avoid this happening again.
As for her not returning your calls and all that, you have to realize that as time goes, opinions can change. What most likely happened is she thought it was sweet when you told her, but then when she went out with her boyfriend, or saw her picture with him, she realized that something wasn't quite right with her acknowledging you thinking of her that way. Back off and wait for her and her other half to break things off.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Ok, in response to your private mail, none of that made a difference to my answer.....you ask how can you get her to be your girlfriend, you can't, it is disrespectful to her to try, she has a boyfriend, she told you she thinks of you as a brother (not a boyfriend) and she is not returning your calls or texts....you say you aren't a stalker, that is great, then turn your attentions elsewhere, as she is not available....take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe said it was alright that all guys do it that it's normal she said she loved her valentines day present me and her are LIKE brother and sister those are some minor deatails i forgot to mention and i don't feel guilty about there divorce anymore
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't need no guidance councler i've stopped feeling guilty i am not no stalker so don't say that i have always been picked on so yeah yeah i do feel like i have to bribe people
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Yikes, you have a lot of issues going on here....do you think you could talk to your school counselor or your family doctor about your guilt over your parent's divorce and your dad being suicidal? These are things you say that I am most concerned about.....and may be the reason that you are acting inappropriately, it is not appropriate to walk up to a girl in school and tell her you masturbate to her picture and then give her valentines gifts when she was polite to you and told you it was flattering....you are lucky she did not turn you into the school as being a pervert.....I don't think you are by the way, but you need to know that masturbation to a girl's picture is a private thing and an invasion on her person and privacy to admit it to her and giving her the responsibility to do something with the information is a bit creepy.....I am sorry to say.....don't get the idea that she now wants to be your girlfriend, if you think your sexual obsession is shared by her, you would be wrong, she clearly is not interested (not answering your calls or texts, has a boyfriend) if you continue to pursue her in any way, you may be arrested or labeled a stalker....please talk to someone about the problems you have with your family and your feeling like you need to bribe people to be your friend, I am sure you don't need to do that, do you?
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reader, Ankoku +, writes (23 February 2008):
Personally if I knew a guy was masturbating to my picture I would feel kinda scared and creped out. I mean if she thinks about you as a little brother, that's just down right weird. What you need to do is just watch what you say, I mean that kinda sounds a bit stalkerish. Now if you want to date her you just have to wait, if she's dating someone you can't make moves on her because then it just gets so confusing for girls and a lot of time they just end up feeling hurt and like a horrible person. So just wait and be there for her, and try and show her that you can be more than a little brother, just don't come off to strong.
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