A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm 16 and I've been friends with this guy since year 7, we've always been incredibly close for example he rings me up all the time for a chat and we have nights in together, he's really attractive and I'm not.During our friendship he's had a number of different girlfriends but it's never worked out because he gets bored of them and doesn't click with them.I never thought I had feelings for him until recently, I always loved him like a brother and told him everything but the other day he suggested we should have sex seeing as we're both 16 and I thought it was a good idea because he'sthe person I trust most in the world. From the thought of having sex with him I've realised that I am in love with him, I've never got along so well with anyone else, and the reason his relationships don't work with girls is because he never gets on with them as well as he does with me. Should I have sex with him? knowing it would mean more to me than it would to him? He's out of my league and therefore I don't think he would consider going out with me but I really do trust him and think he would be a good person to lose my virginity to because I know he would never hurt me.What should I do? Have sex with him or not? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou Both :) I will take your advice and wait until I find someone right for me, and I'll keep you uptodated if I do 3
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): There is no harm in waiting, but once you lost it you can never get it back. I think in the long term, it would be best for your emotional health to wait until you are in love and in a committed relationship with a guy before you have sex with him.
I know it seems like you will not be too hurt and be able to keep your head on straight after you have sex with him, but in the midst of all the hormones (look up oxytocin) your brain will secrete once you have prolonged physical contact with him, I think you might start feeling a little crazed or obsessed. It happens to the best of us, so let it happen in a context where that kind of attachment feels safe, is allowed and respected by your sexual partner, and is reciprocated.
Besides, maybe part of the reason he doesn't get bored with you is because you are indeed different than his ex-girlfriends: you don't have a physical relationship with him.
Good luck! And whatever you decide, BE SAFE!
...............................
A
female
reader, el Lori  +, writes (2 May 2010):
 First, do not ever think someone is better then you. Second, don't have sex with someone if they do not return your feelings. You will be fooling yourself if you do not think you get hurt. Instead, wait until that right person whom you love and loves you right back. In the mean time, focus on other guys, and who knows maybe this guy with come around. Best of luck! P.S if you do decide to have sex with this boy please make sure you use protection. Remember only you can take care of you.
...............................
|
