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anonymous
writes:hi .. my boyfriend and i have known eachother for over 6 months now .. and we havnt had sex yet. He has been asking me to have sex with, but im just nervous. i realy love him and he said he feels the same way, and just the other day he said to me i dont think its going to work, and i said, why not, and he was telling me the reasons. One was because i haven't had sex with him yet. i feel like if i dont have sex with him im going to lose him and i realy dont want that. So should i have sex with him to keep the relationship going ??? Reply to this Question
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reader, ninjaa33  +, writes (26 September 2008):
No. "Girl's fake an orgasm to have a relationship; Guys fake a relationship to have an orgasm."
remember that..
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): You have sex when you feel ready, not when he tells you. If He can't accept that you're not ready, he's not worth your lave and attention. Don't waste your time with this 'relationship'. Find someone who wants you for you and not just for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): He only said that knowing it will make you think exactly what you're feeling now. If you sleep with him he'll probalby dump you after week anyway. Lose the creep and find someone who appreciates you.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (22 September 2008):
 No. Find someone who appreciates you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Having sex with a guy because you're losing him is absolutely the wrong thing to do. Not only won't it make the relationship better, it probably won't even save it. If he's ready to leave you then he's leaving. He could have sex with you and be no closer to staying than he was before.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (22 September 2008):
 Do I smell blackmail?
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (22 September 2008):
 something is telling you it's not right, and you don't want to have sex. So you better listen to it.
You will know when you're ready. If the relationship ends because he's not getting sex, than you know he's not the one for you and good riddence to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): I agree with Eyes as usual. Once he's got inside your knickers a few times, he'll probably be off looking for pastures new and new challenges.
Having sex with him is no guarantee that it will keep the relationship going! Keep this one at arms length for the time being until you're sure it's what YOU want. If he's keen enough on you he'll wait, but if not he's no great loss to you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 September 2008):
 Hell no. He just wants to get into your pants. This is blackmail my dear. Do not allow him to have that power. Hold firm on the no sex and if he walks, let him. You will regret having sex before you are ready much more than losing him, I can assure you. Good luck Honey, be strong.
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