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Should I have sex with a boy I lust for if I already have a boyfriend?

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Question - (30 January 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 30 January 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, *.I.B writes:

Ok well Im 14 and I had sex with this boy that I was talkin to for 2 months and I always liked him the first time I saw him, and also we have health class together. anyways after we had sex a couple of days later I didn't talk to him for like a month while I was ignoring him I was talking to another boy who was in my reading class. he is such a sweetheart and everthing you want in a boyfriend, he is cute, tall nice smile, funny, my family loves him and he loves them,the only problem with him is that he doesn't have any (bad boy) in him. I would love if he was a little more demanding in what he wants. anyways while we are in reading class together there is this one boy that I just found out that he liked me and I always like him since the day that I saw him. so I broke up with my boyfriend to go out with the other boy and he told me that him and my boyfriend was too close as friends and he only wants to be friends with me. after that I asked my boyfriend for another chance and he gave me one..... a week later the boy I had sex with that was in my health class started calling and texting me and asked why I stop talking to him I said because I got a boyfriend and because after we had sex he didn't talk to me so basically I thought he used me.. after I told him that he said that he couldn't believe that I thought that he used me.. and he said he was falling in love with me..I started getting feeling for him all over again and then he asked to have sex with me again. I asked him is that why u called me to tell me stuff I wanna hear and ask for sex again. he said no I just wanted to see what you would say and he said he would be happy if we could still be friends. well the question im asking you is should I have sex with the boy I lust for? and what could I do about my boyfriend not being a (bad boy).?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009):

Dont go with the boy you lust for! He is completely using you! cant you see it? He IS telling you what you want to hear. At this stage in the game your better staying with the boyfriend who lacks bad boyish. You need a stable guy who WILL love you and treat you proper. He is just new to the game, as long as you dont pressure him he will come out of his shell. The first night i slept with my boyfriend in the same bed i wanted sex with him and he refused to even touch my boobs because he felt it was violating me in some way lol! Now hes rubbing his crotch up me during concerts in the dark, feeling me up in the cinema and having sex about the house (that we share with 2 other people). He will come out of his shell give it time! You are only 14. Boys have a lack in maturity that girls dont.

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A female reader, shna Ireland +, writes (30 January 2009):

shna agony auntyou got to love the bad boys . . . theyre yummy !!!!! do what you think is right i think you shud stay with your bf you cant shame him twice . . . so he lacks badboyness . . . . youll be ok

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