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writes:Ok so i liked this girl at camp, and longstory short I told her I liked her but was a coward and stalled the conversation for a half hour (we were playing truth or dare and she dared me to tell her who I like). I had planed to tell her I liked her but things didn`t go as I planed. I wrote her a song and brung it to camp and wanted to give it to her, but my friend said it would just creap her out. The song wasn`t bad in any way not like all this sexual music out their, it was just my feelings when I`m around her. So i liestened to my friend, but I feel like I should have given her the song. I`d post the song and see what you guys thought but don`t want any one to steal it. SO do you think I should have given her the song seeing as I will probably never see her again. Reply to this Question
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reader, MissTHANG +, writes (26 July 2010):
 Dear Song Writer,
You are welcome. Hope it all goes well for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): Thank you for the idea on the song and all the advice and help you gave me.
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reader, MissTHANG +, writes (26 July 2010):
Dear Song Writer, I understand about the Face book thing, my niece and nephew are forbidden to have one themselves - they should assign those rules to some of the grown ups who have them as well - but I digress.When you say she seemed "mad" when you told her, what did you tell her? That you liked her? Or that you had a song for her but didn't give it to her? On the one hand, if she was "mad" when you told her you liked her, it may not have been anger, maybe she just didn't know how to react naturally. If on the other hand, you meant she acted mad because you never gave her the song, then maybe that's why she was mad.But in the end, if "mad" was the vibe you felt you got from her, I'd put it on a shelf, and get on to writing your next song. Not to get off the subject of love, but since you seem to like to write - write about your experience of this loves me/loves me not situation - it will be very cleansing to go back and read what you've written a few days later, as it may give you another perspective on the situation AND yourself. PLUS there are more people out there than you realize that will probably be able to relate to what you've written, if you ever show it to any of them. And as for the subject at hand, you've done all you can do - the next move is on her, or that's my suggestion to you anyway.You are welcome for the advice, I really hoped it helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): (original poster) I wish I could look through Facebook or other things but I`m not allowed to have accounts on thous sites. Also she didn`t talk to me at all after I told her and she seemed kind of mad. Also thank you for the help and advise it was really helpful.
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reader, MissTHANG +, writes (25 July 2010):
Dear Song writer,
There are many ways to go about finding someone who has taken off, even if you don't have normal venues in which to get the information - like asking a friend who knows her address, or the girls relatives.
Check online and go through engines like Face Book, My Space, and the like - and if those don't work - there are many free people searches out there in which you can find a person by their name, interests and the like - and eventually hunt down an address in which to send them a short note.
P.S. I just reread that the truth or dare question was from her asking YOU who YOU liked - something tells me she wanted to know. Hope this was helpful!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 July 2010):
 Just mail the song to her . With a short, simple note saying that you wrote it at camp thinking of her so you want her to have it, since you are not sure when you are gonna see her again...Add your phone no, then the ball is in her court.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): ok i`m the original poster and how can i still give her the song, we go two different schools and will probably never see each other again. Also thank you for the advice, it was really good.
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reader, MissTHANG +, writes (25 July 2010):
Dear Song Writer,
Having been around a long time before you, I would have to say ...YES. And, I'll tell you why:
First, you like this girl and the song came from your heart. What's the worst that could happen? She rejects you and your song, and makes you feel like cat box droppings? OK. That could happen. But that's life my friend.
Yes, there are times you will be rejected - in love, in a job, by your best friends - and sometimes even your dog, who is supposed to be Man's Best Friend. But that's OK. Why? Because we learn to be stronger people from our rejections - in that eventually we learn to love ourselves, EVEN IF THE OTHER PERSON DOESN'T.
Now on the other hand, she might have been really touched that you wrote a song for her. And let me tell you something about women as a woman - Most of us LOVE men who show us their sensitive side. In fact, I don't know one woman who DOESN'T - even if she won't admit it. Plus, many women love musicians, and if your song is a good one (which I'm sure it probably is) then if one girl doesn't appreciate the sentiment behind a song you wrote for her - there will be many more in your future who will.
P.S. You can still give her the song - hint. hint.
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