A
female
age
36-40,
*ady Dobson
writes:Hey! I hope I can get some help here. I have been in a relationship with a man for over one year. The problem is that he is married to someone else. Ok! He left his country and went to the UK on a six months visa. (That was some 15 years ago). We all know that when people become an illegal immigrant in a foreign country marriage is one of the easier route to becoming legal. I don't have a problem with what he did because maybe I would have done the same had I been in his situation. What is the problem? We have had a lot of drawbacks in our relationship because of jealousy (on both sides). I am jealous sick of him and I can't stand it when he gets too friendly with some female. We have worked out that and we have renewed our commitment to each other and our relationship. The love we share is like music. I can feel it and our families (both sides) are seeing it and they are very supportive of us. I am worried now because I get upset when we have to talk about his 'wife'. I wish she didn't have his last name and I feel like walking away from the love I have for this man. But I can't, I have tried so many times. He does everything possible to show me just hjow much I mean to him. He doesn't believe in God and I do. But he doesn't allow that to come between us. He even pray with me. That's strange because I didn't have to force him (and I would not have forced him). His family loves me and we all get along very well. Oi have a room and a bathroom at his house (in Jamaica) so when I visit that's where I stay. I sometimes become confused about us and wonder if I should believe in him and wait until he is able to secure a divorce without losing much of his assets. What say you?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 Why would he lose some of his assets before he finalised a divorcee? Have you had a conversation with him to ask him why he wouldnt have thought to sign a pre nuptual agreement before the marriage so that his belongs and hers would both be protected if they were ever to divorcee? I guess the best thing you can do is sit down and have a long heart to heart with him and tell him exactly how you feel. If the both of you are very jelous people well then am not sure if this will work out as you may end up driving each other up the wall. The only thing you can do is be open and honest with him about how you feel and ask him how long it will need to take before he can get a divorcee. Goodluck.
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