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writes:My boyfriend likes porn. He watches it every chance he gets and I've told him I hate that he watches so much of it but he starts getting into the statistics that all guys watch a ton of porn and blah blah. It really irritates me. And I am already self conscious about my body and him watching these pornos with girls that are skinnier and prettier then me with like the perfect boobs and tans and waxes just make me feel 100 times worse. Which I have also told him that but he just doesn't seem to care. He watches it all the time. He has even watched it while I am home in the next room. Now I am pregnant with his baby and he thinks he can still watch porn all the time after the baby's born. How can I get him to understand that porn is really affecting our relationship and that he needs to grow up and take responsibilty for this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): All guys do not watch porn. Him saying that is just a cop out to excuse his behavior. Watching once in awhile wouldn't be so bad, but every chance he gets is down right obsessive. You 2 need to sit down and have a serious talk about this, and if he won't, well then you'll have to leave him. I know it's more difficult than it sounds, especially since you 2 are having a child together and all. But, you still deserve a guy that's not going to lose interest in you just because you got pregnant. That's just retarded, especially since he's the one who got you pregnant. I mean, what did he expect? Did he honestly think you weren't going to gain any weight while you're pregnant? Also, ballabriggs couldn't be more right in her closing line. Most of these women are average, they have all kinds of help to look the way they do. Boob jobs, labiaplasty, makeup, hair extensions, fake eyelashes, the list goes on...Maybe it's time to sit your boyfriend down and educate him about all this stuff, because it's possible he doesn't know. I would guess most guys are oblivious to how fake the women in porn actually are. I'm sure they know the women are wearing makeup, but that's probably it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 April 2011):
 Ok well I would agree with him to a certain amount that yes most guys do watch porn. But it shouldnt be a daily thing. Especially now that you have a child on the way he should be acting more mature and putting your feelings in to concideration as well. How many times a day does he actually watch porn? Could it be an addiction? As there is a possibilty that he may actually have an addiction to it and might actually need help with this problem. But that is only if he is compulsive at watching it and it takes over a big part of his life.
If he is not going to reason with you well then you are going to need to explain to him that he will end up losing you and your child if he keeps up his behaviour. He needs to respect you as well. Maybe you could both come to a compromise where he watchs it now and again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2011): my bf used to watch porn. i hated it, so i sold his laptop(im guessing its the main source). just tell him if he doesnt stop, youll leave him and he wont see the baby. it may seem a bit extreme but youll see and know the true side of him.
and trust me, underneath all of that make up and airbrushing, if you remove the implants from their boobs and ass, they are no prettier than you or i
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reader, helpOut.GuY  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 im sorry.i dont know what to suggest. He is wrong not all guys like porn. I hate it . i think women should not be objectyfied! and im sure that your beautyfull on the inside and outside. i hope you sort your situation out and that your baby perfectly healthy. Good Luck !
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