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writes:my boyfriend has the biggest problem with me going to parties and he will cuss at me and get really reall mad.he says that he doesnt want me around all those boys because he thinks they'll try something with me.i think he doesn't trust me and thinks ill do something.so my question is should i go to these parties,and do u think that he doesnt trust me Reply to this Question
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 Aaahhhh ... teenage hormones and rebellions :-) I vaguely remember those times in my life ... LOL
You did good coming to this site asking for advice from your good aunts and uncles though.
Uncle Martini and Aunt SatinDesire have listed some critical points in their concerns about going to teenage parties that could easily get out of control (much like your raging hormones right now). Your b/f getting real mad is probably because of his raging hormones talking instead of his logical brain. LOL
Tell you what, if you did your own research on the web, using key words like "parties", "teenage", "accidents", "police raid", "drug", "rape", "victims" etc etc etc ... I am sure you will find many articles on the dangers/risks involved in teenage parties.
These days, I think the key advice people are giving for being in parties (or bars) are (1) never leave your food and drinks unattended for a single second, (2) never lets your food/drinks out of your sight for a single second, (3) never trust anyone with your foods/drinks .. not even your own friends because you don't know if they were already "duped" into doing something bad, and last but certainly not least, is (4) never do anything that you know you might regret later because you know that alcohol and drugs could impair your judgement.
So, if you could assure yourself that you can go to those parties and abide by those 4 "policies" .. yes, go and have a safe party. If you are doubtful, take your boyfriend along, or not go at all. Instead, go to science fairs where you can try stuff (that blows up in a controlled environment) and learn something fun. Or go have picnics with your close friends LOL
Do I sound like a dork? Probably. LOL It just so happens that I like to be in parties where I can still remember the fun I had in those parties while being sober and remained safe. Twenty years on, some of my old friends (old being the operative word here LOL) often reminisced about our silly but fun - not dorky - things we used to do as teenagers.And we could remember them as vividly as it was yesterday! And you, could do this too now as a bright teenager that you are I am sure.
Have fun, but be safe!
Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Aside from the dangers of these parties as SatinDesire had mentioned, your problem is easy to solve.
Think: is your relationship with your boyfriend more important or is going to a teenage party more important?
Regardless of whether he trusts you or not, it doesn't matter whether you think you won't do something to cheat on him or not, this is a matter of security and well-being.
I've been on DearCupid and other similar sites with the exact same problem for years and I'm going to tell you that in 90% of those cases, something stupid happens to create unnecessary drama. It's an easy choice. Why make it so difficult?
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