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writes:From an early age I was very fond of my uncle . However he used to do things that worried me , he was extremely fond of me is well and kept showering me with gifts . Anyways I thought it was only me and that I must be wrong . I mean he appears to be a good man very kind hearted and warm . Then when I was older he started talking about his sexual experiences and I also told him my problems (about bullying and sexual abuse that I went through at school . Well he told me to get it out my system he also done a massage course . He offered to have a look at my back and made sure his partner was out of the way. He said were doing nothing wrong are we ? - being secretive about it …. And I thought why was he being like this, Then I had a thought come to mind that things aren’t right and that his giving me the wrong attention - but who could I tell and what if I was wrong ? I still feel so alone . It was a feeling I had I wanted to tell someone but who would believe me ! Also it would split the family up . Well my uncle offered me a massage and I said ok then - he said he would make me feel so good . Nothing could have prepared me for what happened He said he needed better access so I stripped off . And let him touch me for the ’innocent massage’ . Then I think what he done was unforgivable……. I didn’t lead him on I thought how much was I correct - and my worst fears came true ! I mean I don’t like him in that way - I never did as its wrong ……..his family it was wrong what he done . He said he dose it to his friends . I didn’t say anything because I felt trapped . I got dressed acted normally went home and I had a really good think about things . I thought if I told people they wouldn’t believe me . I had a bath because thought if I told someone it would cause a lot of problems and friction. I even got rid of my clothes I wore on that night ….. I love my uncle not in a sexual way his part of my family ….. Therefore I shouldn’t go to the police . I just feel so upset and have got low self esteem I didn’t want this to happen if only I could tell someone . Even then what do I do I had a bath when I got home and chucked out the clothes - this morning I felt sick . I am not a bad person - I have been through so much upset in my life already ….. I cant let this destroy me I have already had months of severe depression which I have just recovered once I nearly took my own life as I cant cope with the issues in my life . The thing that gets me is he planned this over time didn’t he . I was his target , I just feel so angry with my self why is it bad things always happen to me . I Hate myself for letting this happen …….. What now ? Will he blackmail me ? ….. ……… I just don’t know what to do . I need help - Should I go to the police or should I try to forget this ever happened and move on with my life ? I just feel so stuck - I feel miserable this morning and im scared .
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit just makes me soooo upset i cant tell half my family it would cause so much damage and upset but on the other hand i dont want it to destroy me ....... i just feel so stuck .
thanks you guys for your advice .
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question I think something worse happened that night i think i might have been drugged - i can remeber my drink tasting odd - then after it happend i had problems remebering - it was like being drunk - i dont know if i was drugged but i felt soooo light headed and then he said he hopes nothing happens to me - when i left his house to begin my journey back . im just so upset but im dealing with it each day im getting stronger .
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reader, deafguy +, writes (17 August 2009):
He did sexual abuse you which means breach of trust and damage the energies (you may not aware of) between each other. He had no right to do that to you.
It still bother you even now. Yes go to police or go to social workers for support.
This might be difficult for you but you might not aware that he might carry on do that to other children and still get away with it.
Better to report.
I have been experienced similar myself and it is worth it.
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reader, Kathy James  +, writes (17 August 2009):
Whatever happened was extremely wrong.
So better go n speak to your parents directly without worrying. They won't eat you up. But don't delay it as then they would consider your fault. Get yourself away from this man. And you are not a kid. You have brains toooo. How can you be such a stupid and let him do whatever he wanted to.. NOw don't be a coward. God has not made you to be coward and let go things as anyone wants to. You should be strong and widout any delay go and tell your parents.
ALL THE BEST.
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reader, Elainey  +, writes (17 August 2009):
Do you mean that your uncle actually molested you without getting your approval? And that he went too far in his "massage"? I think you should avoid that uncle but not that you should be afraid of him. IF he approached you again I think you should confide in an adult family member. Don't let your uncle take advantage of you again he seems to be a cunning character from the way you describe over here.
I know that this is a pretty emotional trauma for you but believe me time heals all wounds just try and forget about this thing and avoid him. Things will hopefully get back to normal.
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