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writes:There's this guy I like. I suspect he might feels the same. We make eye contact every day in school, we say hello to each other, but we haven't spoken yet.Next Friday there's gonna be a party at school, and today he invited me at Facebook (he's not the one who created the event or organized things).What does it mean? Does he want me to go with him or he just wants me to be there...? I've never been at a party, and I'm a little scared, what if he won't talk to me and I won't have company? Should I go to the party?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2015): I have an idea. Ask him who he's going to the party with?
Don't say anything else until you get his answer.
If he doesn't name any other girl; just say, maybe you'll be there.
Regardless of his answer, go anyway. Have some fun, and maybe you'll meet another nice boy who's not too shy to come over and check you out. Keep your options open! He's got to make a move.
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reader, dusxpress  +, writes (18 January 2015):
It looks as you are both very shy. If he is very shy, it can lead to a problem of starting the conversation. Written communication is a good method to overcome that anxiety - which is by the way nothing to be too much worried about (the anxiety). I would respond to him in some way, either by mentioning that you will or will not come to the party - and you have to decide that, not somebody else for you. Or you just write to him about something totally neutral, and see how he will respond to you.
From the tone of your question it looks as if you would like to go, but have anxiety / worries how will all that go for you. So I think it is better to go, then not to go, as the main cause of your anxiety will stay unresolved, it will look as an avoidance to face the potentially unpleasant situation, and avoidance is the worst method of dealing with problems or anxieties. Avoidance is just postponing, and usually, the next time problem or anxiety might be bigger.
And, if you go, whatever happens at the party, in terms of whether nobody will approach you or you do not approach anyone, do not see this as your failure. It is completely ok to go first time at a party, you may not know if you like it or not if you don't go. And it is completely normal to feel bored or not like it, for whatever reason, too many people, too much noise, bad music, just do not try to persuade yourself that you made a mistake or that you are "not ok" if you do not feel comfortable or relaxed.
To me, shy = very sensitive, = having stronger feelings, = having higher imagination, = very emotional, = being easily hurt, = developing feelings of guilt easy, = looking / acting as solitairs while in real life there is a need for friendship and company, = easy suffering inside etc. See at what you are good, develop that further, do not be intimidated by others who can be superficial and not capable of understanding what you understand and what you know better than them, then "attacking" you as you may be more vulnerable than them, or they might even enjoy belittling or bullying those who are more sensitive and less capable of responding in their own protection.
If he doesn't talk to you at the party, he will at least say hello to you, as he does every day, and you can then ask him something to start the conversation. And it is also not too much worrying even if you do not say a single word to anyone at that party - but I am sure that won't happen, as there will be other people that you know there as well.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 January 2015):
 Do you know any other people who will be there?
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