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writes:My brother is 15 years old and my mum has let my cousin and his wife live with them in his room "for a little bit.” for the second time this year. But it is a 3 bed roomed house, my mum in one of the big rooms. My 18-year-old brother in the small room and My 15 years old brother is in the other big room with my cousin and his wife. That was 4 almost 5 months ago. Its now got to the point where he has started getting moody and sneaking in to my other brothers room and gets very moody or starts a fight if/when he is told to get out by him.I don’t know what to do I have talked to mum but she says everything is ok.I'm now thinking of going to social services or the NSPCC and reporting mum, anonymous of course. But know if there’s any think they can do.HELP PLEASE.Thanks
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Hi there, I totall understand your unspoken fears. Is there no way the 15 year old could share with the 18yr old? bunkbeds are not that expensive these days. You need to talk to him and find out exactly what is troubling him, rather than jumping to conclusions, I know thoses asumptions are easy to make, but you have to consider it most likely isnt what you think. Sort out the sleeping arangments with the boys, and try to find out how much longer your cousin will be imposing on your mother.
xxxx take care xxx
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Before you consider such a drastic action, talk to your brother. Ask him how he feels and if he is alright. Then you could even talk to the cousin and his wife, they will be equally as unhappy in the room if it's causing a disturbance. I've suggested it before, but often getting everyone sat down together and getting them to share their feelings, clears the air, and brings any issues to attention that your mum may not realise are there.
Take care and please feel free to email me [email address blocked]
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): I seriously don't understand how this is anything that social services or NSPCC should be wasting their time on, unless there's something you're leaving out, it just sounds like your brother is having a bit of a tantrum about having to share with relatives. Which is hardly abuse or neglect... It's bound to be annoying since he's at the kind of age where privacy's important, but on the other hand it's your Mother's house, and she makes the decisions and she's not going to turn your cousin and his wife out onto the street, is she?
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