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writes:My husband passed away 14 months ago, we were never a big part of his family his choice...we were involved in family functions and always respected everyone....his mother stopped talking to him 6 yrs before he passed, her choice...I have been invited to help with a big event my husband was trying to get started. My question is one of his cousins wants to take me out...I haven't seen this cousin in 20 years, we have Been talking texting, had dinner once...I can say he is a wonderful man. Would it be wrong to date him...he said he doesn't care what his family says, but concerned about what they say about me. I don't have much connection with his family...what do I do
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (29 November 2012):
Sure, why are you asking? If you are nervous about what people say then just use some discretion until you are ready to let people know, or realise it doesnt matter. Is there more that is making you nervous?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 November 2012):
 well there's nothing illegal about it.
if you don't care what the gossip mongers in the family will say I don't' see any harm.
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reader, daqueen +, writes (28 November 2012):
daqueen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe was a cousin we rarely saw, and no don't want to stay connected to his family... I married my husband wasn't close with his family, but respected them all..his children are grown and my children are all adults.
Only knew maybe 5 on that side of his family.
He doesn't want me to get hurt when the gossiping starts and he says he doesn't care what they think...just wants me to be happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): Do you want to stay connected to his family? Because that is what you are choosing if you date your late husband's cousin.
And why after 20 years are you reconnecting in this way?
Do you have children? Does he have children?
What are all the other issues?
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reader, MikeFlarity +, writes (28 November 2012):
 If a person's family is important to you then, no.
If your correspondence with this man has made you ask this question then you already know the answer don't you?
Ask yourself what would make you happiest? To be taken out or not?
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