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writes:Hi. I really like a guy I work with. We get on really well and I would love to take things further but don't know what to do. If he doesn't want to, i don't want working together to become difficult. We've been out for a drink a couple of times but I don't know if he just wants to be mates.What should I do?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 February 2008):
 You can ask him to the movies or a sight seeing tours or outings during the weekends .
If he is interested in you , he would accept.You would then know where he stands.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Hi,
Firstly if you have been out to drinks with him and it was only just the two of you, he is most likely interested.
But all the same, i would tread very carefully. If you work together and he rejects your advance it will be very embarrasing for you I imagine.
Unless of course he is very shy, if he is then you could broach the subject sensitively - suggest a meeting on the weekend where you have to make an effort to meet up- a concert, movie ( if your asking him dont suggest a chick flick o.k?), football match etc...If he's keen he'll come, if not he won't.
Or alternatively, ask one of your girlfriends at work , in my old office this is how it was always done, it sounds very high schoolish, but getting a friend to discreetly ask "do you fancy" so and so , can give you a pretty good indication where you stand.
good luck
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reader, BadVoice  +, writes (14 February 2008):
You should take it easy and take it slow. Let the moment come to you. Communication is very important in any relationship. Why don't you talk to him about your feelings and about eh way you feel? maybe he too is interested, but maybe he is not. Are you willing to do a 'one night stand' with him? Do you want a 'long-term relationship'? You must be prepared that this may not go as well as it has in your head. Will you be able to still work around him if he rejects you? Keep all this in mind before you make a mistake. Think about all the possibilities....the good as well as the bad.
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