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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy in high school. We only have one class together, but we hang out with the same group of people in every break, or almost. He is very nice, funny, handsome, sentimental, smart. And I'm not idealizing him; he really is, all girls agree, although some find him a little childish. I think he might be a little of a womanizer. Girls who are friends with him, but are not attracted to him always say that he is gay (of course xD) in front of him, and sometimes I say it too. I like to think that he is gay so I don't fall in love with him for 2 reasons: a. I have 2 close girl-friends that like him a lot (one who is kind of obsessive and therefore scary and unattractive because of that, actually told him that she liked him and a day later he told her they would "try". They dated but he broke up with her within 5 days because of her jealous behaviour)... and I don't want to be seen as a bitch to them or simply to cause any trouble. b. At my age I have not had a romantic relationship yet, and I have liked boys who did not like me and so I don't want to "fall in love" again if I don't know if really have a chance with a certain person.So, sometimes I really do think he is gay (he is very sensitive and almost "perfect"; plus he has dozens of girl-friends but only about 3 guy-friends) but I know he has been through a lot of things that made him the way he is nowadays.He really likes to flirt, but he does it jokingly with a lot of girls. Sometimes I feel as if he is flirting with me (by cuddling up a lot, saying pick-up lines... once we were at a friend's house and he insisted we go make out in my friend's bedroom. I did not know what he was up to, but agreed and went to the bedroom with him. He shut the door, gave me a flirty look but then a grin and began to make noises aloud as if we were, in fact, having sex, but nothing happened) ... and I sort of like it, but I just don't know if he means it or not. We are just very good friends right now, and I like it that way. I can only say that I do find him attractive and that if he does want to be in a relationship with me, well... I'd accept.Also he kissed me once. In a dare. But it was nothing special because other girls got to kiss him that day too. So... What do you think? Do I have a chance, should I "go for it", or just stay away because he's kind of troublesome even though he's really sweet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): He shamelessly flirts with every girl, willingly kisses other girls in front of you "on a dare," has many, many more female friends than male, PLUS you yourself call him "troublesome" and think he might be a womanizer.
Go with your gut! It sounds like you're exactly right about him -- he's sweet and nice and funny, but that doesn't contradict that he's immature and willing to flirt with any female.
Not only that, but your friend did date him. You dating this guy might mean that you lose a friend in the process. Then, if/when you and he break up, you've lost a boyfriend and a friend.
Totally up to you, but it sounds like you've gotten quite a lot figured out about this guy.
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