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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,There is a guy I have met on Facebook - who was absolutely gorgeous looking a few years ago.He wants to meet up with for a possible relationship - but the thing is - he is now middle aged and not looking half as good as in his youth.I know it's sounds shallow - but I don't know if I can have a relationship with him if I do not feel the attraction anymore..So what do I do? He knows I found him attractive in his youth - but I think he thinks I still do, when I know I probably won't when we meet.Any advice please - girls would you go for it or not?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (21 October 2014):
 Go check him out and keep convo casual. Nothing wrong with not feeling unattracted some men dont know how to care for their bodies over years. Im ahead of them definitely. Stick him in friend zone it would not be bad.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 October 2014):
 I am lazier than the anon reader :) and personally I would not bother. If you already know that he looks not even half as good as he was when you were attracted to him, that means that now you'll be less than half attracted to him than you were and should be. And if there's no, or very little, attraction...
I don't think it's shallow expecting mutual attraction before starting a relationship. It would be shallow enbarking in one, or worse, staying in a bad relationship, just BECAUSE of physical attraction, with no other level of connection or compatibility- but, wanting to be attracted to the man you at some point will be intimate with, I'd say it's the bare minimum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. - yes you're right - it's best just to find out one way or another. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2014): One important question to ask yourself - will you regret not meeting up with him?
If I were in your shoes, I would meet up with him. If there's no attraction, at least I would know for sure. BTW, it's not shallow to want attraction as a pre-req for a relationship.
Keep everyone posted on your decision.
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