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writes:I like a guy a lot..we have been good friends for about 2 years now...I always felt an atachment for him from when I first met him...He broke up with his gf about 8 months now(not because of me)..I provided as much support as I could when he was grieving....and than few months later he told me he liked me a lot...no doubt I like him too but he has this problem of having plenty friends mostly gals...he loves talking and making friends.he is handsome so attracts gals quickly..I do not like his habits about those friends he has so I told him that.It seems it difficult for him to change.we are friends so I share most of my personal life with him.And I have noticed that whenever I tell him about someguy wanting to be friends , he tries to get close to me but it all goes away in a few weeks.He keeps on saying he will change but will take time...When he is away from then also he calls me everyday to tell me he misses me...he proposed on phone recently and I was actually surprised but didnt reply....i said ill think about it and than he never asked for an answer just assumed a yes I think...he is a great guy...I cant think of my life without him...but I keep on having doubts about ..is he going to be faithful to me...we are like in the process of becoming gf/bf...what shall I do...go for it or assume he wont change and end it
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reader, Somethingeasy  +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Odds are he likes you as well, but you seem a little too decient than he is. He is probally not ready for someone like you.
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reader, dc.ryan  +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Friendship is a very powerful thing, for being close friends for 2 years - he would of developed feelings to protect you, and therefore probably wouldn't have any intention of hurting you.
There issue here is trust, you need to be able to trust him - and he needs to be able to trust you. Believe it or not, some guys just like having friends as girls - with no interest of having a relationship (its only those they come close to, they grow deeper feelings for - such as you).
Problem with relationships is if they do go tits up, you can potentially loose a very close friend to you - so you need to sit down and talk to him about your friendship and how your feelings have grown for him and how you can see each other being in a proper relationship. Talk to him about your concerns, but remind him you do trust him - you just feel insecure with the amount of female friends he has..
If you still feel he won't be faithful in the relationship, theres nothing wrong with having a close friend - perhaps after time you will naturally become extremely close and have no other path than to fall completely in love.
Talk to him,
Ryan
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