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female
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36-40,
*unshine09
writes:I met this really great guy in college. We started off as friends, during the course of our friendship I realize I wanted to be more than just friends. I told him how I felt, and turns out he felt the same way, but he never told me because he didn't want to violate our friendship. He told me from the very beginning that the reason he never really wanted to approach me in anyway other that friend is because he has a arrest record and has problems finding a job and he doesn't feel right trying to pursue a relationship with me and his finances wasn't right. Which I understand and respect. But I can't stop thinking about this guy. He constanly on my mind, I want more, I've told him more that once, but when I do he mever really gives me answer or he changes he subject. It's been a little over a year now. I don't exactly want to put my life on hold for much longer. Should I give up on a relationship with him or should I hang in there? I know he care about, I've tried to help him and anyway I can but he just keep shutting me out. Reply to this Question
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (31 January 2009):
 I'm one of those people that strongly believes in laying all the cards on the table and coming clean. I would recommend that you kind of do the same here. Tell him all the issues you've got whirling around in your head and see what he thinks. To me, a criminal record can be expunged with time. Financial problems?... who's not having them these days... honestly, those things might effect your married life, but dating is all together different thing.
So, try being open and honest with him. If he's not open to things, then it might be best to move on rather than getting the cold-shoulder, right?
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