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writes:I've known this girl, for what seems like an eternity, we get along great and I can always be myself around her, and I've always felt some form of attraction for her, nothing has happened between us, but in the last few months I felt I was losing her to another guy, 'unfortunately' this has broken down and as a friend I've offered my support and a shoulder to cry on etc. However since my previous attempts to win her over haven't been successful, and everyday I'm feeling as though I'm fighting a losing battle, I've been thinking about trying to move on, despite the difficulty since I've liked her for years. As I've already confided in my close friends who are supportive in this particular issue, I've been wanting an unbiased opinion, so hopefully this will be answered and I can get some advice on what I should do
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2016): I think this distance yourself and no contact thing .. what about the girls feelings .. This girl who may believe you are nothing more than a friend .. who have have supported you in the past .. or really care as honey says as a friend .. what of her feelings or doesn't she warrant your time now she not giving you what you want .. to me that's horrid .. If you do drop this girl as a friend make sure all your friends from now on are male only .. do not make someone feel they have a place in your life as a friend then dump them.if you can't up that relationship as that to me is misleading and mean .Sometime most of the times friendship if they have years invested are best left as is .. and maybe that how she see this .. that if the relationship doesn't work she loses you .. you who she cares about .. My advice mental move on .. and take honey advice .. its sound ..I wouldn't however change the dynamics of the relationship no matter how I felt as it isn't all about me and then I would have to admit that I was being a friend for all the wrong reason .. Take care
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (23 July 2016):
 If attempts to win her over haven't been successful, even though you have liked her for years, I suggest you move on. Don't contact her or initiate meetups, and don't waste any more of you life waiting for her to make some sort of decision about you.
Get out there and have fun, instead of waiting for something that might never happen. Life is for living, so go live it!
Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 July 2016):
 If you have known he for a VERY long time and nothing has ever happened, she probably don't see you as BF-material for HER.
JUST because YOU really like her and want more, doesn't mean she feels the same.
Seems to me that she sees you as a VERY good friend, no more. If that isn't enough for you, then maybe distance yourself a little and go out meeting new people.
You can CARE for a person a lot and STILL not want to date them.
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