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*upercutie
writes:Hi I'm a gay guy in my mid thirties I dated a guy in Aug (also in his mid thirties) the relationship lasted about 2 months after which he said it's not working for him. I was not particularly happy with the relationship as I felt there was very little passion there from him. He seemed to blow hot and cold, one minute he seemed interested, the next he seemed distant. I thought that maybe he just needed more time to get to know me and things would get better. I was wrong! However I really like this guy and feel we have a lot of things in common and really would like to be friends with him. I asked if he thought we could be friends, he said lets see how things go. He says he does not have a problem meeting up with me, and says he’ll chat later, yet he never does.I haven't contacted him in 2 months, and he has not contacted me.Should I contact him, or wait to see if he contacts me?Should I give things more time, if so how long?Should I just forget about him and move on as maybe the feelings are one way?I think about him every day, and it's really driving me mad. Help!!
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reader, supercutie +, writes (4 January 2009):
supercutie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your advice.
Oh dear 2 completely opposite suggestions.
Hmm whose advice should I take?
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 I'd give him time. I dated a guy for quite some time and when things didn't work out, we were still amiable and talked. Eventually he stopped talking to each other altogether and I left it at that. A few years later, we reconnected and while we are still friends, he still has residual feelings for me. I've moved on since we were together and am better for it. I suggest you do the same. Even if it seems to hurt right now, you're only hurting yourself more pining for something that may or may not happen. If he comes around, he comes around. If not, at least you'll have the satisfaction of knowing you haven't wasted a chunk of time and emotion that could have been spent better with someone else.
-Jmo
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