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writes:I dated this guy for almost 5 years and we lived together for almost 4. Recently I moved in with my mom to save money and he broke up with me and immediately slept with someone else. Now he wants to earn me back and says hes done with her. He even invited me to go with him to his cousin's wedding and be in their family pictures, and says I'm the girl he wants to marry etc.. We have stayed really good friends throughout this whole thing but it still hurts me about the other girl. Should I give him another chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Make it clear what you expect from him before you move in with him. If he really serious, let him get you the ring and announce the good news among the parents. I would go very cautiously though...he might be lying just to get you back....
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (11 May 2009):
 Has he given you the real reason why he left you and slept with someone else? It would help for you to know this before you decide whether to give him another chance.
It sounds like he just had a mad moment and did something silly, it doesnt sound like there was anything in it really. You say he is finished with her - did he sleep with her on more than one occasion? If it was only a 1 night sort of thing then I think you should probably give him another chance, that sort of 1 night thing can happen to anyone, just a silly mistake.
But if he was seeing her on a repetitive basis then I would be more cautious - if he did see her a number of times then I am guessing he was in contact with her while you were together and basically thought the grass was greener on the other side. This isnt so easy to forgive - but if you really love him and believe that he is being honest then why not try again.
You have been together a long time and it would be a shame not to try again - but he needs to realise this is his last chance and if he puts one foot wrong you and him are over for good. Dont let him think that you are a pushover and he can get away with what he wants - make sure he knows he needs to earn your trust back and really work at this relationship if he wants you to stay.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): you should give him another chance. If you believe hes really telling the truth, why not. Maybe he broke up with you because he didn't want to cheat on you. It sounds ridiculous to say, but could be. He obviously knows that your the girl who isn't just that someone else. your it!
hope and wish you the best!
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