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writes:I'm 21 this eyar and quite mature seeing as i have had a bad childhood-abused by my father and groomed by a peadophile.I've known this guy for over a year its been on and off so much. we would get serious and he would leave me. hes had a bad childhood to extent of his father elaving him and his grandparents kicking him and his family out when he was only 4 onto the streets.Hes a good guy 24 now good heart but it hurt he kept leaving even when promised would stay. He elft again in jan and came back now. he said he had lost his phone for two weeks which my number was saved on. and now hes got a new one had to find it.but basically was begging me to give him a chance he never told me he loved me before said could only say it when meant it and he has changed . now he talks about marrying me and after 6 months telling his mum about me. i wanted the same we both indian and i want to marry him.but i dont know what to do he did say he left because he is stupid, scared to hurt, scared to love and he was treated badly . and now its like so much love not fake love but real.what should i do? i really love him to we havent met but are planning to next week Reply to this Question
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reader, KisstiLuv +, writes (6 March 2011):
 Does you coulture stop you from marrying him ?Well im in a slightly different senario at the moment but my guys had a bad past too so i can sort of understand that bit where your coming from. Cause i think like your guy theyv'e kind of got it programed deep down into their heads that their some how not good enough and everyones going to give up on them.So id like to believe this on n off thing was like my guy, just having like lil downers on himself, needing a lil space. I think you shouldnt give up on him if you love him; and at least give it a chance. But you need to be certain its going to be the relationship you want cz hes not the only one whos had it bad. You need to know if you can trust him and hes not just gona make promises and dissapear like before. You need to be prooved this; or as i say ' actions speak louder than words' he he ....I think you should take things slow...let him show you that he has changed and realised his bad - he may very well have :) good luck hope this helps kirsty x
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