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writes: i have met a lovely man over the internet tonight but not sure whether to start a relationship with him or just stay friends. I have never had a relationship before i am thirty seven and i was looking after my sick nan up until three years ago. Not sure what to do please advise
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reader, stina  +, writes (8 September 2006):
 Hi Anonymous,
I'm a little confused as to whether or not you met him on the internet tonight or if you met a guy from the internet in person tonight.
If you haven't met him in real life, I think it would be really nice for you to go out and see what he's like. Then you can decide if you want to pursue a relationship with him. But I suggest going out with him and another couple - maybe one of your friends and one of his? Or more of a group sort of meeting. I only say this because there are so many weirdos and I would hate to think this man duped you into seeing him, only for him to harm you in some way. I think you should go out, just be safe!
However if you've already met him in real life, I would continue to meet as friends and see what kind of relationship develops after spending more time with him. There's no reason to rush into it, and getting to know him beforehand can be fun! That way there are no surprises after you two have started an exclusive relationship.
Take care. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): I met my partner online at first we talked virtually every night online.We got to know each other that way then we agreed to meet about a month later after we first started chatting online and we was very comfortable with eachother by then.Yes we was both nervous but we both soon got over that.Then we talked for about another month online before we met again and on the second meeting we was really comfortable as we got to know about each other by then.And our relationship took off from there and now a year in we are still together and very happy and we always agree about everything and there has never been a argument.My advice is look at him as only a friend and see where it takes you.Dont rush the meeting up as if he is interested in you he will make the effort to talk to you online.and then after about a month 6 weeks in if you talk a lot online tell him you like talking to him and you would like to do it in person instead of over the computers.And see what his responce is.But dont rush or push it because as i have said if he likes you he will make the effort to come online to talk to you.GOOD LUCK it sounds as if you need a bit of luck in your life and i hope this is it. :-)
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (8 September 2006):
 Let your heart be your guide. . . although 37 seems kind of old for the first time to be in a relationship. Surely, taking care of your nan didn't consume your entire life until this point did it? I'd say go for it!
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reader, LiLKiss +, writes (8 September 2006):
 ok advice for you. even thought you are 37 you should now stay friends with him for sometime.. get to know him first who he is what he does things like that because the relationship that fast wont work i promise you that. if you guys stay friends now and get to know each other more it will be much more confortable to start relationship. your frienship doesnt have to be just friend, do some flirting, joke things like that before you step in relationship. give your self sometime before seeing him. if i was you i would go meet him as friends and work out from there but even thought im giving you this advice you will know whats best for you.ok hun i wish you the best and just enjoy i hope i help you at least a lil bit. ciao
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