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writes:HiI have some major problems going on at the moment that i need opinions on.I've been going out with a girl for 2 years, its been quite a serious relationship and i do love her. At the moment she is out of the country and has been for 15 days, and cannot get in contact with me, my problem is this;I got in touch with some old school friends on a networking site, because i dont have many friends where i live that i can talk to. One happened to be a girl i liked in school. We got chatting and met up a few times, just chatting etc. It was nice to have the company because i had been feeling pretty low and very lonely.But 2 nights ago we went out had a few drinks and got chatting and she told me that she liked me and has done since school (which i kinda knew at the time), well one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together.This is actually the first time i have ever done this, i'm not even sure exactly why i let it happen, i wasn't so drunk that i didn't know what was happening but i'd had quite a bit to drink.Afterwards we were fine, no awkwardness or anything, but yesterday and today this girl now doesn't want to talk to me much, obviously i'm feeling extremely guilty about the whole thing, but at the same time i don't want to lose this girl as a friend.I dont even know how i feel about her really, i like her alot but i wouldn't want to go out with her (i dont even know why???) i still love my girlfriend and she is the one i want to be with. I realise i might have blown it, but really what i need to know is how do i deal with this situation??Do i forget i ever met this girl and never speak to her again? I think i have some kind of feelings for this girl, but i dont know if that's because she was there for me when i was feeling at my lowest.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 November 2008):
Well it sounds like your feelings for your girlfriend were purely superficial.
I think you need to call her and end it. It's not fair for her to stay faithful when she has been forgotten by you so easily.
Then you'll be free to go off and do what you want.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell things are still the same with this situation, i spoke to the girl in question and she said she slept with me partly as revenge for a text she found on her boyfriends phone...That isn't the bit i'm worried about though, she called me the other night (2 nights after we had slept together) and said she wanted to see me and that even though her initial contact with me was partly for revenge she actually liked me, i said i couldnt and that was the end of that.My problem is we still text but just normal stuff nothing sexual and i actually miss not talking to her or seeing her....why is that??? Im pretty confused and have no idea what im feeling....
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reader, tiamaria +, writes (15 November 2008):
 sorry to hear whats happened,but i have to be honest with you,if you had loved your girlfriend so much you wouldnt of cheated on her,we all make mistakes and we have to deal with them ourselves.
if you really love someone no matter who comes your way its your partner that is allways on your mind and no1 can change that.your young live life and love it.
goodluck with it all and i hope you find peace,all the best.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 November 2008):
Oh dear, she's away 2 weeks and you didn't even care about her enough to stay faithful for that long.
So you have to tell the girl from school that you used her for sex and now can't speak to her again. She'll hate you and you'll lose friends over it.
As for telling your girlfriend, the right thing to do is to tell her, but since she will dump you and never forgive you then you may want to consider your options.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): you have ti be honest about your g.f about this!
you have done something wrong and without trust NO relationshio can work out! i hope u sort it with her afterall if u love her its worth to take the risk and tell her..shel appreciate ur honesty more than lies
just make sure this NEVER happens again
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