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writes: We parted with my wife in October last year after having a long period of fights for over two years. Though I used counsellors to make things work she was adamant about moving out. She now stays alone with the baby. Any time I try calling she bangs the phone and I tried paying fee for the kid. She ignored and instead went to a friend who paid fee for the kid. Am stuck. Should I move on with my life and forget about her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): By fee, I am assuming you mean child support? Is this your child? If so, I credit you for upholding your obligations and responsibilities to your child, whether she accepts the money or not. I suggest you go see a lawyer and ask about your rights to visitation to your child and make it duly noted with the courts, that you have been attempting to give her child support. You need to protect yourself, here. This is not your wife's right to make a independent, sole decision to cut you off from seeing your child. Your child needs a father, whether or not your wife is angry at you. Now about your wife. Your wife is unresponsive to you. She wants to make a clean break and it sounds like the marriage is over, from my perspective. Marriage is about two people, it's about a team effort, handling problems together. For reasons of her own, your wife doesn't want to do this anymore and there is nothing you can do to change that, dear. So yes, I think you are stuck. You can keep hitting your head against a wall and making attempts to reason with her...or you can accept this loss, see a lawyer, move on and live your own life.
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