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writes:Hear me out on this, I'm not just one of those girls thats "in love" with their teacher, I want to know if I should report him for this or not.So I'm a sophomore in high school, I'm 15 and my teacher is like 30, and he always acts really flirty around me, he even makes sure that every new seating chart he makes, I'm right next to his desk. Here's basically what he's said and such...Beginning of the year, like in early september, I was getting my bag to leave class, and I looked up and I caught him looking down my shirt, and as soon as I saw him he quickly looked away, now my shirt that day was a little low, so I might have been asking for it, but really?? A teacher?And he was talking about dancers and how they're ridiculously flexible, and I was like "I've been a dancer since I was 3, so yeah, we are definitely a flexible bunch." and he's like "Would you be willing to prove that to me?" and he looked at me just really suggestively... which was just really creepy.And once I stayed after to get extra help with an essay, and he insisted that I sit behind the desk next to him so he can help easier, and when he was helping, he just randomly stopped and said "Are you wearing perfume?" And I'm like "Yyyeeeaahhh.....???" And he's like "Well it smells very good." And he kept trying to move closer to me, or it seemed like it. I was absent for the past two days, and I came back today, and I went in before school to get the work I missed (That's his policy for absent work, I definitely would not have gone in there alone by choice!!!) and he gave me the work and says "I missed you while you were gone"And he just talks to me alot in general, I'm the only student he'll swear around, he even told me, cause once he was like "You really need to go up to AP, but I just want to make sure you're not like 'Oh shit. I've gotta get out of here' after 3 weeks. Geeze, I just swore, I swear, you're the only one I've ever sworn around..."Does it sound like he's flirting? I wanted to report it, but all of this stuff kinda makes it sound more friendly than flirty, my friend suggested flirting back a little to make him make a move that I could definitely report, but that would just make me feel bad about him losing his job. Any suggestions?
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reader, AaroNR +, writes (6 March 2010):
i think flirting with him to report him just sounds like about the shittiest thing to do to some one, especially because he'd most likely lose his job. but don take me wrong, a teacher, male or female should not have chosen that profession if they're not going to b able to control theirselves. i'll look at it from both sides. i think girls wearing short skirts or anything meant to draw attention should obviously expect some looks or sometimes comments once and a while... i dont understand women(girls)that dress seductively and then at the same time acccuse men of checking them out. but taking your side i think u should b able to go to school without being harrassed, he should quit if he cant handle it. but i would definately not pursue it in flirting back with him, sounds like asking for trouble 2 me. just show him zero attention and if he continues to get worse then youll eventually have to do something about it
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reader, baddest_chikk  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 first of all about the whole looking down ur shirt thing he is a guy and if you have something there their eyes will ocasionally peek down there.. second noticing you have perfume on is nothing, the pont of perfume is to get someones attention.. soo its doing its job..cursing around you?? it happens not a big deal..the only thing tht seemed the most inpropite was the flexible thing but there are other ways he could of meant it tht we arnt seeing.. its not a big deall it seems ur making tht most of a deal outa it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): Not really, and the looking down your top thing, i mean come on HE IS A MAN! he does have hormones, many teachers are flirty but it doesn't mean that they're actaually going to act on their urges! I mean he hasn't even touched you inappropriately x
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (20 February 2010):
 Those are things a teacher shouldn't be saying or doing.
I don't think you should flirt back, but maybe do report him.
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