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anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend in a long distance relationship for 2 years. He lives in Bulgaria and I am in the UK. We have always been planning for me to join him in Bulgaria and we decided once he had a steady job there and somewhere for us to live then I would go over. My problem is he now has his job and he has got a lovely house for us to live in but he is still not sure when I can come there. It even got to the point where he asked me why I am not getting bored asking the same question. I love this man more than everything and all I want is to be with him but his lack of urgency really bothers me. He has told me I will be there when I will be there. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): Just to add a little more to the situation, apart from the moving thing our relationship is good we spend all day chatting on the phone or on skype and he is always texting me when he is at work.
Is the problem that I may be being a little pushy? I was over there for Christmas and we had a lovely time and he was asking me why I can't stay. Is it more the problem that I am seeing it like he doesn't want me there that when he is telling me we will talk about it tomorrow I am hearing something else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): Thank you for all the advice so far, I have been reading and thinking about what's been said.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (21 January 2010):
 Mmm yes it is time to move on. You have asked him once, twice loads of times and now he is getting bored with you asking. I don't want to hurt you but he doesn't want you to move over there to be with him. If he did he would be begging you to come all the time. If you still are keen on him stop mentioning moving and be a bit more distant and let him come to you. It looks like you are doing all the pushing and men don't like it. Let him chase you.
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reader, jc82  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 He doesn't want you there, if he did you wouldn't be asking this question. So don't go, and don't plan to go, and let him know that you're done foolishly waiting.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 January 2010):
I think it's time to move on. He said that once he had a decent job and a place to live, you'd join him. So far he's failed to live up to that. How many other things will he not tell you about, or lie to you about. Move on.
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