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writes: Hi, I am 18 and have never had a girlfriend and never even kissed a girl. Do you think it would be good for me to pull a random girl in a club to boost my confidence? I have always thought that my first kiss would be (with someone) special. What do you suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2006): I understand what you're going through. I know this post is quite late, but I'm going to write anyway. I went looking on the internet for advice. I also havent kissed or been kissed... or had a boyfriend. Im 18, and feel like I'm alone, and unloved... well at times. lol.My friend told me something that helped me alot. She told me that maybe I'm not meant to have a string of relationships... and maybe I'm only going to have meaningful, deep relationships... which to me sounds better than alot of meaningless encounters with guys.Dont feel pressured into getting it over and done with. WHEN you find the right girl, she'll love you and respect you even more for not being kissed. It'll tell her that you respect yourself aswell as her.ok, well I feel better now, so you should toogood luck *thumbs up*FH- UK
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reader, deirde +, writes (2 December 2005):
There is only you at the end of the day that knows the right answer to this question. You are the one who has to do it.If you just pull any girl to kiss would you be able to to forget this because you state that you thought it would be with someone special.There is no rush to do this when the time is right it will happen. Stop stressing and keep looking for miss right.
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reader, not again +, writes (2 December 2005):
hi there, i am a chick in my mid twenties. My first pash was not til I was 19. It was with someone I really cared about at the time and also someone I later slept with for the first time. Before my first kiss I was really nervous (and yes, there were a few wines inolved!) but for me it was the right thing to do. Is this right for you? I don't know. Some people would say just score some chick to get kissing experience. If you do that it's not going to take away from the first kiss with someone you really care about- cos it'll be still so special cos you will ahve so much more fun and it'll be so much more intimate!! And you might be more relaxed cos you know what to do. I was really scared cos i wasn't sure I'd know what to do! But you know what? you do know what to do!! So after all this I say maybe wait until you find someone special who you care about. You're still young and you dont want to sell your experiences short. All the best.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (2 December 2005):
I'm going to assume here that you feel that your no experiencing in kissing a girl is going to be a disadvantage when it comes to having a gf? If so, then don't be like that. Firstly girls are very understanding and if you choose a girl who is considerate, understanding and caring, she will understand and not judge you and break up with you just because you might not know how to kiss! Its something that you can learn how to do and become better at with your partner, not something that you learn from a stranger and become good at it and then kiss your new partner and its like there you are. It can make it much more meaningful when you both 'grow' together or where one teaches another.I think wait till that someone special. It seems like it means alot to you so don't go and take that away. Take care :)
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reader, iggyzap +, writes (2 December 2005):
dont rush yourself. if you want it to be with someone special then thats what you should wait for.dont sell yourself short just because your tired of waiting or because of what people say it will definitly mean more if its with someone you care about, to you as well as the person you kiss. some random girl whos been around the block a few times wont remember it 2 weeks from now if it even takes that long. remember good things come to those who wait.
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