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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Is there any hope for the future?I was seeing this guy of whom ive loved ever since I met him, his actions shows he felt the same however was always shy. We ended but stayed friends. however even whilst he was with someone else he still thought about me a lot. As I say we stayed friends but through past arguments, not necessarily about us but other things in life, our friendship etc, hes often said he doesn;t see the point in trying to put something right if its already damaged. I've never brought the subject up of us up in these arguments as I'm focusing on our friendship. He says (about anything) he doesn't see the point in putting focus into something thats already been damaged, cuz you can't change what happened.Our feelings for each other went on for a very long time before we go together and he was never confident with me like he is with others, he was infact very shy. However I fear he will move on completely. He has got a gf, but if there are still, one day in the future, any feelings there is he likely to confess or will he fight it off because of the bad past.All i'm doing is being a friend to him and trying to see him as and when and just have fun, as friends do. It'd be a shame if we couldn;t be friends because we are so alike. But what can i do? If i make him confident with me as a friend and show him what a good time we have is he likely to miss me? Or will he just think theres no point because of the past and now hes moved on we will never be what we should have been. I don;t know what I can do? And if there isn;t anything, surely theres something i could do to help build our friendship? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2012): I think you need space, your both young and he's a little confused right now, especially if your on his mind, he thinks about you as he puts it right? honestly, time away, will make him miss you. And, maybe realize how valuble you are as a friend, and maybe more then a friend someday. I dont know how old he is, but I'm guessing the same age as you, it's a finding yourself kind of place your in right now. Let him explore, Time and space is a good thing hun, and you... KEEP BUSY...!! and that should help you with not feeling the temptation to contact him, and like the saying goes hun, If you love something, set it free, if it comes back then it yours......if its meant to be , it will be.... Goodluck xo
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