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anonymous
writes:it was nearly a year ago when I started talking to someone who told me he fancied me but I didn't feel the same way but still spent time with him, I have nearly been speaking to him for a year and a few days ago was the first time he's ignored a few of my messages none of them are of importance they are just silly really but he always replied to me and the last one he sent seemed a bit like he was annoyed . although Im not attracted to him there has been something about him that has made me continue to talk to him but I don't know what , I don't really know what to talk to him about or he doesn't make me laugh or smile or anything but the fact he has not replied when he always has done has made me a little sad . I basically think is it worth talking to someone who you don't even know what to talk about and why do I feel sad that he hasn't replied , shall I message him again and ask if he wants to talk to me and explain that I feel sad , shall i ask him if he likes me still or just not talk to him anymore as its not like we're friends and just accept sometimes I guess you can meet people and have no spark with them as it is been frustrating that I cant seem to understand why I have continued to talk to him. I just don't know whether to message him again or forget he ever existed as a part of me does want him in my life and part of me thinks I should just give up on trying to talk to someone who I don't know what to talk about .
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2018): Like a little lab-rat, you have been conditioned to expect a response every-time you send him a message. You seem to think the guy is a dummy, and doesn't know you really don't care anything particular about him. You just like having his attention. Only, you've trapped yourself in habitual-messaging.
Use behavior-modification. Stop messaging him. If you feel the urge, go keep your hands busy.
Put your phone in a drawer, and leave it there for an hour. You just need to break your programmed-response. Like giving the mouse cheese when he rings the bell. If he rings the bell, and gets no cheese; he'll freakout and keep ringing the bell. You're that little mouse. He just took away your cheese!
You don't want or need to talk to him. You need him to feed you attention. That's using a person, and you got what you deserved. Ignored!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2018): Just accept it and move on as he has likely done. He probably had hopes that someday you might give him a chance at a relationship. He's given up on that and perhaps has found someone who is attracted to him. Just let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2018): Hi
Hold fire on the messaging. Just don't get in touch with him. If he gets in touch with you, then you'll have your answer. If you don't hear from him, then you'll have your answer.
Good luck
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