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writes:So there's this boy that I've really started to like. He's super funny, nice, easy to be around, great actor and really cute. We're both into acting, and a few of my friends know him, or used to, and I've heard him talking about one of my favourite TV shows once. I'd love to talk to him more and get to know more about him, but I only see him once a week in a club and there's not a lot of time to talk to him, plus my anxiety makes me really bad in social situations. I managed to get one of my friends to give me his number, and I've texted him a few times, but it was only for help for the club. He didn't actually help and said he didn't know either. Anyway, the friend who gave me his number got it from one of her friends. Her friend told me that he was a player and broke her heart 4 times. I suppose what I'm asking is what I should do. Should I even try talking to him? And if so, how? Sorry I rambled a bit, but please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2018): You reached out to him and gave him a chance to show some interest. Even if he couldn't help, he could have chatted to let you know if he liked you; or he might be interested in getting to know you.
Here's a good clue. After messaging him, you broke the ice. If he liked you, he would use that as an excuse to talk to you at the club.
Try talking to him. If he doesn't even notice you, then that tells you that he's not interested. Listen when girls tell you a guy is a player. He's bad news.
If he breaks one heart multiple times; that could mean she just wouldn't let go. If other girls warn you, better listen!
I think you'll get stuck on him if you talk to him. He'll just ignore you and hurt your feelings. I think it's best to just move on and let the crush fade-away! He sees you at the club enough to take notice. If he hasn't after all this time, maybe he's just not interested.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 March 2018):
 I think the answers will depend on what you are hoping to achieve by talking to him.
Are you hoping that he will reciprocate your budding crush?
Or do you just want to get to know him better? Like making friends?
If it's #1 - I'd stay clear. If you already have issues in social situations I don't think a guy like this (aka a player) is someone you want to get "entangled" with.
Now he might already know that you are interested because he probably figured out your excuses to text him to help out for the club thing, was just to talk to him. If he hasn't initiated ANY interest/contact to get to know you, he might not be interested. Remember a PERSON'S actions show more about them than their words.
If you JUST want to get to know him, then work on pushing yourself to TALKING to him IN person. Not over text with some BS excuse.
Talking to someone once a week may not seem like it's "fast" enough but it's a start.
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